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writes:I am 20 years old and I have having a hard time finding a boyfriend. I live away from home at my university and when I go out to bars, my friends have no problem picking up guys or getting guys to dance with them. I do not think I am unfortunate looking, but I think I am prettier then many of my freinds who have no problem. I am able to get "low lifes" but I can't ever get someone I really like to like me, or even flirt with me. The issue is, since I am in kinesiology, I gress in track pants and hair up ever day at school, but when I go out, I like to think I look great! What am I suppose to do? Why arn't guys attracted to me, they same way they are to my friends?
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reader, Givenup  +, writes (1 September 2014):
Men will pick up anyone in a bar. Since you are more attractive than average you are intimidating to men period. I bet your friends are approaching them first and putting them at ease. Men fear rejection and some are shy and need someone friendly and experienced to go up to them and put them at ease. In any case meet men somewhere else not a bar. I have no need for them anymore I have had my full of them. lol! Men are just not the way they use to be in my day and age. They actually would approach women they liked in the same neighborhood. There were no computers or cell phones and men were more romantic and respectful and lived up to their word. They were not living to brag to their friends on how many women they gathered on their cell phones. And women did not give it up so easily they respected themselves!!I would live on an island rather then go out with the men I have witnessed these days. Good luck to you!! You will need it!!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 October 2011):
 IF you are looking for a boyfriend.. a bar is not the place to look..
Clubs (hobby clubs such as gaming) or house of worship (church or mosque or synagogue) are nice places to meet folks...
"I think I'm prettier..."
do you carry yourself that way? it may intimidate young men...
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reader, Thelaird1  +, writes (9 October 2011):
 I agree with the others on this. You are too good for them and they probably think you are out of their league.
I would suggest either dating sites, or even mutual friends can hook you up.
Just spend time enjoying things you do and even take up a new hobby, where you may meet someone with shared interests.
Whatever you do, don't try to change yourself or act in a different way.
I love girls who are genuine and confident and don't put themselves about. Just enjoy being you and the right guy will soon find you when the time is right
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2011): I'm in a similar position. However, if you are looking for a boyfriend... do i what i do. When you meet guys , play hard to get, be yourself and get to know them, show them your not a slapper. They tend to ask you out if they love your personality and they are more likely to stay with you... and you will know if you actually like him. Hope i helped! ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2011): I know how you feel. It's the same for me. Guys are never interested in me, they usually don't even look at me. And then I see girls who make me look like a beauty queen holding hands with their boyfriends in the streets. How does that happen? How can they find somebody, and not just a guy to flirt with them, but an actual boyfriend (!) and I can't even get a second look from a guy? I don't look like a supermodel but I think I am pretty good looking. It is inexplicable why some people are getting so much attention from the opposite sex, while others are getting none. Maybe people like us are sending out the wrong signal or failing to send the right one. I don't know, I've given it a lot of thought and I just can't figure it out. It would be so nice if a guy showed some genuine interest in me every now and then, it would do miracles for my self esteem.
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reader, macdubh712 +, writes (9 October 2011):
I'm gonna go with you YouWish on this one. You're probably just too good for them. You should take that as a compliment. However, if what you find in the bar is what you're looking for at this stage in your life then maybe it is a confidence thing. Guys like confidence in a girl too. Am I tracking you or am I off in left field?
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reader, YouWish +, writes (9 October 2011):
 Bars are good at attracting bedmates and players. Maybe you'd do much better in a different place than a bar in meeting people.
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