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writes:Hi AllA week ago I was dumped by my g/f of 5 months because she really likes me but not falling for me. Ouch!! I was shocked, confused but walked away. I didn't go mad at her but it was obvious i was puzzled, hurt and confused. I decided to cut myself off from her.This morning, a week later, she texts 'Hey!how's things with you ? I didn't reply. Now 6 hours later she texts again saying " so you are going to ignore me then?" What is she playing at? Why did she text and why does she have to have an answer from me? After all she dumped me!! BTW she is 35 not 16Please, Im so confused and this has rattled me again
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reader, meccamega  +, writes (10 October 2011):
I'm sorry to hear this has happened to you. Dumping by text seems to be the " in thing " to. But it is the cowards way out. I've been dumped by text twice by two different guys. It says more about them, than you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2011): She "likes you but not falling for you" likely means she wants to keep her options open. She likely had ambivalent feelings about you.
I am with you on hating these sorts of texts after breaking up. The worst thing about people who have ambivalent feelings is that they often communicate for the sake of getting a reaction or attention rather than to say anything in particular. She probably didn't care how you are, she just wants to know, "Will he respond?" She doesn't miss you, she just misses the attention you used to give her.
If she has remorse over her decision or she wants a second chance, she's would tell you she wants to talk...and I think you did the right thing ignoring her.
Sorry about your break up...It sucks getting those kind of messages...especially after the fact, but I think you should stand your ground.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2011): Because she feels guilty and responsible for your feelings.But, if she wasn't feeling the way she wanted to for you, then she did the right thing by breaking it off.You did the right thing by walking away and I'd suggest staying away till your feelings heal.Rebound with the same person is usually bad news.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2011): She sounds like a strange one. Either you reply saying "well I thought we were over, so what is this all about?" and wait to see what happens or you don't bother. Either way she seems a little on the odd side if you ask me..
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