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writes:I've been having feelings for this guy who just got out of a very long relationship about a month or two ago. We've only been hanging out the past few weeks, but I can't tell whether he has any feelings for me as well. I've been very patient with him, and I've been there for him as much as I can be.All of a sudden he just started ignoring me (which lasted about 3 days) but last night me and a few friends went to his house to just all hang out. After a couple hours I had a friend take me home, and everyone sort of left at once. Shortly after I left he asked if I would come back to watch a movie with him. I happily replied yes and went to his house. We ended up falling asleep together on the couch (we've cuddled together a few times if that helps any) But I ended up leaving only a few hours later. He's never tried to engage me in sex, or even suggest it. What I want to know is; Does this mean anything? I feel like he just wants to cuddle to avoid sleeping alone, but that's all it is. I really do find myself liking this guy, but I'm worried that I'm going to end up hurt because he doesn't share the same feelings. He doesn't hide from friends that we've cuddled, and openly admitted it to some of his closest friends while I was in the room. Which almost makes me think that he sees this as nothing more (but it could be the contrary) I just find myself terribly confused and I would really appreciate some clarification on this. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 October 2011):
 maybe he just wants to cuddle? some guys do....
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 October 2011):
 The thing is though, when guys are around there friends they talk about the way they are with girls blah blah blah, most of the time it is lies. It really is hard to tell. I can't tell you the reason why he hasn't tried to engage in a sexual relationship with you, but more so than not it is probably because he just sees you as a friend and doesn't look at you like that. Or maybe he just wants to take things slow with you and see where it goes, he probably is not ready to get in to anything serious at the moment so he may be holding back. Just give it some time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIf it makes any difference, he isn't this type of guy. He's the type of guy that does chase after women (but for one thing only.) But it seems somewhat different with me somehow. Like I said before, he's never tried to engage me in sex ever. But I've heard stories (from him and friends) about the way he usually is with women.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (9 October 2011):
He has just came out of a long term relationship and he is going to need some time to recover from that and get over his ex. It does sound like he likes you as a friend, but if am honest the cuddling sounds as if it is pure innocent. He is probably lonely since him and his girlfriend spilt up and am sure he misses her a lot and being with her so he is taking some comfort in having a friend over who he can cuddle up to.
Am not saying he will never be interested in you, but right now I wouldn't suggest acting on your feelings because his head will be all over the place and he might agree to get with you to get over his ex but that never works. Just give it some time and accept that for now all you both are is friends, who knows what the future holds his feelings might change with time.
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