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writes: Long story short: i (stupidly) slept with this guy and i lost my virginity to him (he doesn't know that). After i slept with him he said he wasn't looking for anything serious but because i liked him i agreed to sleep with him anyway. This goes on for a while then he tells me he's back with his ex girlfriend. I get my heart broken and feel like i want to die.A few months on and he starts flirting with me again. Telling me he misses me and he wants to sleep with me etc I'm ashamed to say i did sleep with him but i felt rubbish afterwards. He's been with her for about 2 years but he still tries it on with me. I just want to not like him anymore so i don't have to feel like i'm second best or not good enough. I've tried telling him to leave me alone but after a couple of weeks it starts again.How do i stop letting him get his way and how do i move on from this?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (10 October 2011):
 You are not rubbish, It's hard to have willpower and just say no but that's what you have to do for a short period of time.
you need to not take his calls, texts, emails etc. block his number if you can...
IF he comes to see you you just say "I do not wish to speak to you please go away." and that is ALL you do.
he will get no feedback from you and he will stop.
I know it's hard to not like someone and to tell someone you like that you know is bad for you to go away but that's the best way to make it go away permanently. a bit of pain at first.
and why do you want a lying cheating man anyway? most women cannot have sex with a man without having feelings for that man... it's how women are wired... know this...
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2011): You are not stupid, nor are you gullible, nor are you rubbish.
This guy is a user, pure and simple, and is ego tripping by lying to you and using you, all because of his own internal issues.
He's using her, as well as you, and it is a form of abuse.
Tell her what he's done, then she can protect herself, if she chooses to do so or is capable of doing so.
Then, block his number, tell him if he contacts you to never contact you again, and remember that not all of us are like this so you don't start acting like this as well.
Then, find someone to love you like you deserve to be loved.
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reader, Battista  +, writes (10 October 2011):
Block his number or don't answer when he calls you. If you don't speak to him chances are you won't give in when he starts flirting/looking for sex. He can't get his way with you if you stand up for yourself and stop letting him treat you like this.
Get rid of the lines of contact and then you will be able to move on.
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