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writes:I need some advice on this situation so please can someone help me and sorry for the long story but i need to get all the details in here. My gf and i both 19 , lesbian couple have been together for 3 years a 4 months. We left home on Dec 2010. We wrote letters to our parents and ran away. Legally we could. We survived without any problems. Thank god and we were living our life happily until August 2011 out parents had some how found us. We ran away to a different city. Hoping that it would hard for them to find us. But with the help of our "friends" (who did not know that we were together) and some other people they found us. So its been over a month now that they know where we live and stuff. The problem is that they dont know that we are a couple and have been for over 3 years.They think that we are friends. I came out to my mum through chat. (the only way that i could do it) .She assured me that she still loves me and is glad that she now has another daughter (my gf). But its been 3 weeks since i have told her and day by day she is changing. Now she thinks its in my head. My dad is gone to India and i asked her to tell him about me being gay. She said that she will after he comes back from India. I don't know if she will or what because now she doesn't want to accept me anymore and thinks that i am wasting my time with my gf. She thinks that my gf has possessed me. I love this girl and i don't see myself leaving her. Ever.We visit my gf's parents often , they live 3 hours from us. My parents live in a different country. Me and my gf were thinking that maybe we should move into my gf's parents house. Because we are flatting together and well we have a party animal for a flat mate and we get disturbed during 2 am . because the music is too loud.My other problem is... should we move into their house? Or should we tell them first about us and then move in. I currently work at MCDonalds. But if we move to my gf's parents house i have a job waiting for me in that city. as a PA. So what should i do ? And what should i do about my parents? We are both planning to move to Australia (where my parents are) Because my gf's parents also want to move there. We are hoping to do uni there too. P.s we come from an Indian family so our parents are extremely strict. I am also from a Catholic family and my parents are very religious and so are heres.so some one please help us. thank you
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (9 October 2011):
 I understand why you felt the need to run away in the first place, but at the end of the day you are who you are and don't ever change that. If you are happy with your girlfriend well then don't let anything change that. Yes it sounds like your mother refuses to accept it and she probably thinks it is a phase that you are going through, but just stand true to yourself and stick to what you believe. She will soon see that you are being serious. If she keeps looking down on you and she won't accept it well then talk to her and tell her how she is making you feel. Tell her this is the life you chose to live and either she can accept it or not. Its the only way to be.
As for living with your girlfriends parents. Even though it may seem a good idea, I am not so sure it is. You both have pressure on you at the moment, but it will only get worse when you are living in there family home and it will put more pressure on you both, plus you wont have the same privacy as you have now. You both need to sit down and realistically talk about this.
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