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writes:I'm 22, I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we have a 3 year old son. I've been miserable in the relationship for the past 2 years but we've both tried to make it work the whole time. If we didn't have a kid together I'd be long gone. I'm not going to go into the reason i want to leave him because I'd be around a book....he's a great dad and there isn't any abuse at all, we just don't work together. We've tried counseling, we've tried pretty much everything. Bottom line: our relationship is definitely over.But I'm having trouble deciding when to tell him. We don't fight much..definitely never in front of our kid so that isnt an issue...this isn't an emergency situation or anything. For 2 years I've been debating on whether I should leave or stay and I've finally made a final choice. But the holidays are coming up and then our sons fourth birthday is at the end of January. Should we stick it out until then? And if so, what should I do in the mean time? How should I prepare myself to be a single mom? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 October 2011):
 I don't think waiting til after the holidays is going to make it any easier. Faking Halloween, Thanksgiving and Christmas cheer is not going to be easy.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 October 2011):
 there will always be holidays coming up. and birthdays....
if you know you are going then just go...
as for being a single mom, have day care in place... have a job have a place to live and end it as nicely as possible.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (9 October 2011):
 If you both had mentally checked out then a break up won't feel like a harsh blow. Whether you make the final talk is up to you but that won't stop the holiday celebrations, specially when you say he is basically a good man. When you find a new man in the future the kids still share half the holidays with the dad, and also the new "mom" if he should have one. You didn't mention if you live together but I guess you do. You prepare to be a single mom by looking at your finances and compare your time schedules together. Also enlist help from families and friends. Arrange day care and babysitters.
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