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writes: It was my cousins birthday party last night and while there two of his friends announced that they fancied me to him, gradually over the night the message got to me. Right at the end of the night a fight broke out and one of them got quite badly hurt and I wasn't sure about the other one. So I added them both on facebook and asked them if they were both okay. We spent pretty much the whole day talking and I'd like to be friends with them both. I arranged to meet up with them both on different days due to college and work things. However I thought of it as us just being friends and they both know I'm meeting the other one and when, but my when I told me mum I was meeting up with them both and explained the whole story to her she said they'll think of it as more than just friends.Is she right or am I worrying over nothing?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 October 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answer. And while it might sound a bit stupid I don't actually like the attention at all, in fact I hate people paying any form of attention to me what so ever. I'm the sort of person that sits in the back where no one can see me and does everything humanly possible not to get noticed.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (10 October 2011):
 Your mother is absolutely right.
These young men have proven they're willing to fight over you and by inviting them both to be 'friends' you've just announced that you're holding a competition. You may not have stated it outright but that is how your actions will be interpretted by both of them. And when all is said and done whomever isn't chosen will feel teased, strung along and very resentful.
If you were being honest with yourself I think you'd have to admit that a competition is exactly what you want. You may not be drawn to either man but you're enjoying the attention and flattery that their interest gives you.
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