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writes:Hey not a big problem but I just wanted to know whether a potential relationship between 2 15 year olds in the Uk that live about 30 miles away could work. As I have been in love with this girl for about 3 months, I can't focus at school I find it hard to go to sleep at night because I'm thinking about if i was her boyfriend; when I do get to sleep I have dreams (romantic dreams) about her as well.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (10 October 2011):
 to be honest:
maybe but not likely.
30 miles when you don't have a car and the cash or time to make the drive might as well be 3,000 miles.
and it's highly unlikely at age 15 you have those things.
That being said....
I would suggest you continue to be friends.... and be close friends if you like... but until you can manage to spend time together I think it best to not have it set up as a romantic relationship only because I worry that ONE of you will get hurt....
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2011): When you're 15, nothing works out permanently. But yes, you can make it work for a while. I did long distance for over a year at 13.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 October 2011): Yes! It can!My boyfriend is 16 and I'm 15, we're in a LDR and we have been since we got together...its been over 2 years and we're still crazy about each other!We see each other about 3 times a year and we manage to make it work, cuz we have this special bond
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reader, ZoeHannah +, writes (10 October 2011):
 Hi Anonymous.
Firstly I have to say it sounds as if you care very strongly for this girl, though I would stress that LDR are hard and very few relationships are easy, so to take so much on at such a young age will definitely put strain on the relationship.
You're 15, I imagine you have your mock exams and GCSE's to work for, and then after that moving to college A-Level's and maybe University further down the road. 15 is very young age to be thinking so maturely about relationships, especially in a time when you should really be focusing on you, and your future.
15 is the time for being fun, reckless and happy. Enjoy it! And sweat the adult stuff later. Women find nothing more attractive than a successful accomplished man, so work on making yourself the best version of you, you can be, and the romance/love will follow.
Good Luck!!!
Zoë
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (10 October 2011):
 Do either of you have a driving license? Taking public transportation might be an option..but it sounds expensive and time consuming. Plus, it doesn't sound very safe for a 15yr. old traveling solo.
So you two won't ever really be able to see each other..that's going to make a negative pact on your relationship. In a LDR, you have to have travel when permitted.
LDRs are really for couples who are away in uni in another city, those whose boyfriends/girlfriends serve our country, or are traveling for a job. Basically more for adults. These type of relationships hold a high level of commitment and maintenance. They also don't last forever and usually end when the one moves in with the other. Sorry to say, but at 15 years old, I think you're a bit too young to restrict yourself to that type of relationship. At 15, the only thing you should be committed to is school.
There will be other girls, that will come along and vice versa. You're a spring chick, give it time. Maybe you two can meet up later in life and attend the same uni??
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