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writes:ok...so i've been with my boyfriend now for 5 months. we live together and everything was going ok...our sex life is a little low..but oh well....tonight i found out that hes been downloading porn and hiding it from me...i feel like hes cheated on me...what do i do?
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (3 October 2011):
If you think he is using porn over having sex with you then you need to address this issue. Your relationship isn't going to go anywhere, until you do.
It is perfectly normal for people who masturbate whilst in a relationship but the problem is when it effects the sex within the relationship.
Bring it up with him and find out how you both can change the relationship so he is more interested in you.
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reader, tdactyluk1 +, writes (3 October 2011):
Alot of men, Including myself, do this, usually because we don't get enough sex. I masturbate to it, and I could never cheat. The guys who don't do this, find real women, to do it with. They Cheat, and your parter doesn't.
Terry
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reader, curiosfemale  +, writes (3 October 2011):
maybe he just wants to watch it to get tips on making your sexual life more exciting oa watch it with him i no it doesn't feel right watching someone else having intamacy but you could also benefit from it and excite your man on a move that was on it etha way watch it 2getha oa watch it alone if u want to build up the courage to watch it with your partnathen watch it alone it took me ages to watch it now i watch it but it made me love my body and my self more hope this helps in any way
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (2 October 2011):
 how sad that he has to hide it and yhou have to sneak around checking up on him.
Maybe the problem is that you don't trust each other?
I personally have no problem with my man using porn. What are your objections to it and how do you define cheating?
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reader, Daniel the love doctor +, writes (2 October 2011):
 A lot of people feel this way when they've discovered their partner has been hiding porn. But unless it's an actual problem/addiction, it's not such a bad thing.
You could put him on the defensive if you try to confront him. Or you could communicate with him to find out how you two can make your sex life better.
In this case you may want to try...
1. Watching the porn with him (as long as it's not too much for you to deal with/handle). This turns many men on. Just the thought that their woman is watching it with them....this alone may make him want to be more intimate with you.
2. Act it out with him. Do only the stuff that you feel comfortable doing. But many movies have a lot of role-playing scenes. Why not dress up every once in while to spice things up.
Hope this helps! :^)
* You may also want to check this article as well: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/ideas-to-keep-the-romance-alive.html
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