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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Ok...here it goes. I've been broken up for 2 years after a five year courtship with a man. And I was getting ready to go it alone, he had just broke up with his ex early this year. He was a friend of a friend and so we introduced ourselves and have been talking non stop sense. I really like this guy and want to go out on a date with him but I don't want him to think this is a booty call. I told him I usually wait at least the 3 dates and when I asked why he was single he wrote: I'm happily single by choice....:) I was just in a relationship earlier this year, I want a break.SO does this mean I am wasting my time? Its not that I want to get married, I just don't want to be used for sex. I feel like my gut got punched. Am I foolish for going out with him. What do I do. Help please
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2011): Will three dates change his mentality on being happily single, needing a break from relationships, and speed him through getting over his ex? Ummmm...NO. If you have sex with him then it's at your own detriment and emotional expense. In a nutshell, it's you using sex as a means to push your own agenda, a relationship, on your time schedule and ignoring his and everything he said.
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reader, Aliana  +, writes (2 October 2011):
 Unfortunately, if he writes you clearly that if he is happily single and does not want a relationship for the moment, that indeed what he wants and that the risk that he just wants you for sex is high. A man who is interested in a serious relationship with a woman would not write this.
However, there are some relationships that start this way, the 2 being f*** friends and then step by step they become exclusive..
It's up to you to see if you would agree of being his booty call for the moment.
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