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female
age
26-29,
anonymous
writes:Hello, I'm in high school and have a long-distance boyfriend in college, and to put it plainly I am terrified of the l-o-v-e word and I want to make sure this relationship is healthy for me. Sounds simple enough, but it's a big of a long story.I got to know him over the summer at work and we became close fairly fast - I guess you could call us one of those couples who are just on the same wavelength a lot of the time. We both realized just before I left for the school year (it's a summer-house-only kind of situation for me) that we had more-than-friends feelings for each other and texted and talked on the phone constantly until he asked me out officially over skype. We live about 600 miles apart and can only see each other when I visit my extended family out where he lives during the holidays and during the summer. And again, he's three years older than me. He's also my first boyfriend. ...Yeah, when you look at it objectively, it sounds like a nightmare.We care about each other a lot and are both willing to make this work, but what I'm scared of is him telling me that he loves me. Maybe I'm misinterpreting the signs, but I'll see him for the first time about a month and a half from now since before we were dating. What if those wonderful hormones just go off the charts and we start throwing I-love-yous around right away? While I'm still a little bit dazed over how I managed to end up with such an amazing guy, I really like him but don't want anything to happen too soon that I'll regret.So if he tries putting the l-o-v-e word out there, what do I do without him getting the wrong idea?
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reader, fishdish +, writes (2 October 2011):
 When you see him just tell him how happy you've been these past couple of months getting to know him better and getting close to him and how you've really appreciated (even if you haven't had a chance bc of the distance) how slow you two are taking it, because this dating scene is all new territory for you and since it's new it's something you're trying not to rush into, but remind him you've been enjoying yourself and you'd like to see where it goes.
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