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writes:Outline: I'm 22 bf is 25 been together 16 months not living together but see each other every day. Moving in has been talked about but gonna wait. My bf been away work and I only see him at weekends which is hard. Recently we started talking about weight loss. He said if I get to my target weight (lose 3 stone) and keep it off for 6 months he will marry me. This week end he started talking about wedding food and rings. I asked him if he wanted to marry me and he said I'll have to wait and see. Then I sent him a picture of the ring I was describing and he told me he not getting it now. He said he saving money since he getting a extra £100 a week food allowance and on time and half as he doing 10 hour days 6 days a week. But claims he don't have spare money to take me to the cinema. I'm confused by all these signals does he wanna pop the question or not?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (2 October 2011):
 how could you be confused.
He's placing CONDITIONS on your engagement. What happens when you gain 1 or 2 stone back? is the engagement off? or if already married will he divorce you?
DO YOU WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH A MAN WHO WILL HOLD CONDITIONAL LOVE OVER YOUR HEAD????
WHY is this ultimatum acceptable? DO you think THAT LITTLE OF YOURSELF????
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reader, atarisrocks +, writes (2 October 2011):
atarisrocks is verified as being by the original poster of the question The 3 stone thing to do with both us losing weight he getting a car racing day it a inspiration thing not a weight thing
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2011): Do you really want to spend the rest of your life with somebody who doesn't love for who you are, who doesn't love you unconditionally, your personality and your soul, but only loves the skinny version of you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2011): Dear 'i'm confused'- Really??! You aren't confused you see the handwriting on the wall but you don't want to accept it. He is dating you and you are 3 stone heavier. He is already taxing you with unnecessary burdens. I bet he doesn't turn you down for sex(If he does run far and fast!)You need to order Steve harvey's book " Act like a Lady and Think like a man!" He is 'sportfishing' and holding out for something better. Save yourself the heartache and get someone that can see you value! "You wonderfully and fearfully made!"
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