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female
age
30-35,
*efi
writes:i did wrong, i admit.currently in a relationship, my bf doesnt want his family to know ANYTHING about me and him.so obviously i cant mention it to anyone related to him.recently, his eldest brother (who lives in ghana) who has 3 younger brothers (my bf being the youngest one) added me on facebook. it was the first time i spoke to anyone related to him, so i just went along with the conversation. we spoke and chatted till we got into the topic of love. that was when i accidently told him that me and his brother dated. he was fine with it, told me he crossd his heart he wudnt tell their mom or younger brothers. my bf knew i was talkin to the eldest brother, and so he wanted me to copy and paste the chat that we had. but i forgot that i told his bro about the datingnow, off topic, my bf DOES NOT talk to the 2 brothers between them, over a family feud, but he somtimes talks to the one in ghana, but he doesnt rly trust him. so, now my bf is rly pissd off with me because i told his eldest brother that we dated, and hes seriously scared that his brother will tell the family.now he says he can trust me anymore; i rly dont know what to do; how can i get him to trust me again?
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (6 October 2011):
 Glad to hear it. You're very welcome. :)
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reader, Fefi +, writes (5 October 2011):
Fefi is verified as being by the original poster of the question @ Aunt Honesty; reason why he doesnt want his family to know is because apparently his culture (ghana) hates having their kids having a bf/gf, they just dont like it; for eg: his parents met in their late 20s and it was both their first date :S
also, all his older bros have had girlfriends already :S
but apparently cuz hes the last 'mommys boy', and hes an extrememly shy boy, they dont expect him to get to that phase so early
howver i got good news, me wade up, all is well, and he said sorry too Ciar :) thnk yu xx
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reader, Ciar +, writes (3 October 2011):
On the contrary, you did nothing wrong.
You didn't cheat on your boyfriend. You didn't steal from him. You didn't tell lies about him. In fact you told the truth.
The person who did wrong here is your boyfriend. He's been stringing you along, treating you like some dirty little secret and he has the cheek to be upset that his lie has been exposed.
You have nothing to prove here. There is nothing for you to make amends for. HE should be trying to win YOUR trust.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 October 2011):
 He seems to be making a huge deal out of his family finding out, does this not bother you? What are his reasons for not telling his family anyway? If it was me I would feel like there is a reason he is wanting to keep it a secret and I would want to get to the bottom of it.
You made a mistake, we all make mistakes in life, but I guess we just need to learn from them. There is nothing that you can really do but show that you are sorry for breaking his trust and work extra hard to try and gain it back.
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