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writes:This post won't be very long, I just need a little input and help.I've had two VERY bad break ups within the last 4 years (I'm over them, by the way) and I've been sitting here thinking about why I'm not in a new relationship. I've been on many wonderful dates in the past 3 months and I really liked a couple of the guys and they seemed interested as well. But when it comes down to it, I don't follow through with dating any of them.I think that it's because I just don't ever want to be in love again. I feel horrible for saying that because love is supposed to be great, but I just don't seem to have the desire for love like I used to.Is there something wrong with me or is this normal? And has anyone ever felt this way before and gotten over it? If so, how? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2011): What you need is to ignite your passions. It sounds like you don't have a life. I believe that passion is not an isolated event but an active continuos force which pervades your entire being & thus makes living WORTHWHILE. What you need is to go back & remember the things which once made you passionate & start doing them. Tell you what, once you remember & start, the love & desire for a man will come back burning brighter. All the Best.
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reader, meccamega  +, writes (1 November 2011):
Hi I'm going through the same thing. After a couple of bad breakups, I've spent about 6 months being single. I feel cynical too. I think alot if people lose themselves In relationships. I am trying to work on myself, so if I do go through a other bad breakup. I'll still have support from other people.
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reader, Tigerlily +, writes (31 October 2011):
Hi sweetheart. I can relate. It sounds like you are scared of being hurt again. If you don't get involved, then you don't risk getting your heart broken again. Even though you say you are over your past relationships, you are still healing, and you just want to be safe. You are not alone and you are totally normal. I think so many people feel this way. I struggle with this one myself.
I can't say I have any advice here, other than to try to love yourself. If you can make yourself happy and fulfilled in your own life, then you can share your time with a man but if he leaves it doesn't have to devastate you because you have a strong foundation.
I am really interested to see if anyone has any good advice on getting past this. It's a question I have as well.
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