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writes:Alright so I have a slight problem. There is this guy that I really like... He and I have just met at the start of grade 10 and We've somehow become really close, we talk a lot, and we walk home together everyday, or when we can. Recently about two or three weeks ago I realized I have feelings for him in more than a best friend or a brotherly way. I'm a little hesitant to tell him just because I don't want to screw things up. Also he has been giving me signs that make me think that he may like me. For example, I have him in both my first period class and last period. He always comes and sits with me in first period even though he knows he's not supposed to and in guitar class he sits at the back and I'm all the way at the front and he always comes up and tries to talk to me for as long as he can until he has to go to the back again. Also my friend who's a grade above mine (grade 11) told me that she's almost certain that he's interested just because of the way he acts towards me... I mean he makes fun of me in a playful jokey kind of way and I know that there are times where we flirt. Also I was very sick one day and I was only able to come to first period and of course he saw me but my friend said when he asked about me and why I didn't show she told him I was very sick and she said his face fell and look like he got kicked in the stomach ( not sure what kind of face that makes but I don't want to know) then he told her to tell me that he hopes I get better... So I thought that was sweet. Then, a few days after we first met I was walking with him from school and after about 8 minutes we would part our own ways so I remember turning and walking away from him but then about 2 minutes later he decided to turn and walk more with me and told me he would just go to his friends house which was close to mine... So I was happy. And recently out of no where he decided to hug me and that was about a week ago and ever since he always wants a hug to me... which I'm not complaining about. And today... which was Halloween, we had a play based on the theme Halloween. And he asked if he could sit with me and of course I didn't reject. Then when the play ended we talked for the remainder of the last class. Then I asked if he was walking home... of course he was, and we headed out together and I was waiting for one of my friends but she was taking a little too long so I just decided that we could head home so while we were walking I had told him that one of his friends gave me a very uncomfortable feeling and I thought that he was creepy, then... The exact guy we were talking about shows up and starts walking with us... so I felt a little bit uncomfortable... again. A little while after walking I guess the guy I like sensed that I was uncomfortable and he asked his friend to move to the other side so then he could be away from me... I thought that was really nice and showed that he cared. Those kind of actions make me think that he likes me, but then I get thinking that he could just consider me a really close friend that he cares a lot about. But my friend is trying to convince me that he does like me because he's always smiling with me around and once he asked where I was at lunch because I'm never in the cafeteria, I'm always walking around and then he said he wanted me to have lunch with him. So yeah my friend is insisting that he likes me because of all the care and sweet gestures that he's been displaying for me, but I'm not really convinced... So my friend has driven me to the point where I have to ask this so then I can get other opinions. Please help. It would be very appreciated.Thank you!
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reader, Abella  +, writes (2 November 2011):
 You like him and he's giving you the signs that maybe he likes you. But there is something special about him, so yoú don't want to rush it and mess things up.
Smart move on your part.
And your friend is trying to convince you that he likes you?
Well it does not matter what everyone else thinks. What you think is the crucial point. And it matters right now that you like him.
Yes, do take it slowly. Find ways to 'almost just' notice him. Notice where he goes and when. Especially at lunch time.
Ensure that occasionally you just happen to be where he is at the same time. But not every day. Keep him on his toes.
But let him show his hand first. Expect him to possibly flirt a little. Take an interest in what interests him. Listen to him carefully. Reflect back things he says, to ensure that you did understand what he says to you. Ask him what are his favorites things. If he says a particular pastime, and you think it sounds cool too, then reply with with, " so you like (fishing, bowling, x-box etc - whatever he mentioned)That sounds fun, i've aways wanted to learn how to do that"
If he is a smart guy he will offer to teach you to
Best Wishes
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