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writes:Hello! Well...I am a latin woman (south american) who likes and enjoy going out. I love dance and have fun with people. I am living in US for almost 4 years now. Last weekend I went out with a friend of mine. She is american and we went to a very nice night club. Some guys came to us and ask for dance. I accepted and I danced all night long. We were dancing with different people, we had a good time and just was that DANCE. When we finally decided to leave she said to me "I dont like that" She said to me that she hates when we go out and I can talk with everybody and dance and laugh when I dont really know all that people.." I didnt say anything but still that hurts because she was ungry...In my culture we socialize a lot, and we dance a lot too. Is nothing wrong with that. Is ok dance and talk with guys or girls.Some times I am feeling soo insecure because I know here is different and my friends are really nice but they dont see good the way that I am..but what can I do if is my nature?? I found people from India or Middle east are more social too so when we go out I can dance and talk whit them and have a good time..but with my american friends still is very difficult..It is just a culture shock?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 November 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTHANKSSS A LOT.!!!! You guys are all right!!! I know my friend since long time ago and I talked about last weekend..she said is nothing wrong with that is just I am more social and she respect me and likes the way that I am! But she said if I talk and dance is my problem and she doesnt want to participate.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (31 October 2011):
 Nothing at all wrong with your nature, but I suspect that something is wrong with your friend, or perhaps she became jealous of you. Or as "fi the tree" suggests, include her a little more in the fun. Enjoy yourself, above all!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2011): She was probably upset because she was left alone, with no one to talk to and dance with. It's always polite to remain with the people that you have planned to go out with.
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reader, fi_the_tree  +, writes (31 October 2011):
 People have different personalities that's all. You are used to socialising with people, your american friend might not be used to it, so may find it difficult.
Maybe next time you two go out, sit with her and help her talk to new people (only if she wants to) don't just leave her sat alone whilst you go and dance with everyone, make some time for her too.
A bit of compramise goes a long way :)
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reader, KlassyKirsty +, writes (31 October 2011):
 In regards to your friend who attended the nightclub with u, i would say that it is partially a different culture shock, but the other side of the coin is that she was most probably envious of the male attention that you were attracting, but she was accompanied by several other males so i see no reason for her to feel humiliated by a radiant, gregarious person like you.
She could be dealing with some self esteem issues herself, and if she is underneath the surface, she is possibly venting it out on u if she feels that u may shatter her self confidence. She has got to comprehend that confidence comes from within, not developing a vendetta against those who inflict no harm upon others with their positive aura :) xxx
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