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writes:Hello, I am a 31 year old married woman. I have gotten great advice from this board in the past. With three kids by birth and an adoption of a 4th in process, my husband and I have to take advanages of opportunities for sex. My hubby is something of horndog, so we maintain a pretty good schedule. But Friday night, after the kids are in bed, and with no work or church the next morning, is the hubby's favorite time. Let's just say I tend to sleep in a little on Saturday.Well, this week, after the kids went to bed, he asked me if I would go to the bedroom and get naked and he would be right in too. Then, the phone rings. We never just let the phone ring with emergencies and all. My brother had a breakdown on the road and needed my husband's help. I asked him if he wanted me to "wait up". He said yes. He did not get home for quite a while and I fell asleep. When he got home, he just got into bed, with me, but did not wake me up. I am feeling bad that I fell asleep. I am feeling bad that he did not wake me up and that he missed out on his "Friday night" I could use a pep talk as I am feeling like a bad wife here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2011):
Are you out of your mind? You sound like a wonderful wife. My wife wouldn't think twice about cancelling on me "just because." You had a valid excuse. Make it up to him next time.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (1 November 2011):
 oh please emergencies happen.
4 kids and a busy life and you miss ONE friday night...
stop feeling bad.
what I feel bad about is when my fiance wakes me when he comes to bed and I'm too tired to perform... he takes that very well....
your husband knew you needed your rest... relax you can make up for it this week!
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reader, serenity80  +, writes (1 November 2011):
Why don't you just say to him "I felt bad I fell asleep last night, let's make up for it NOW [WINK]"
Surely a quick fix to this ridiculous worry of yours.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2011): You are WAY over thinking this... if he'd wanted to have sex he would have very likely woken you up.
You say:
" I am feeling bad that he did not wake me up"... you shouldn't feel bad that he didn't do something... that's on him. If he'd been short with you about you falling asleep (which would have been rude and unreasonable) we'd be having a different conversation.
Surprise him, get naked when you normally wouldn't... find a way to crate some alone time and make it a special treat.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2011): just be a bit less rigid about stuff and learn to just go with the flow.
has your husband been hinting that he's not happy with you for this? if not, then don't look for ways to feel bad about yourself for no reason.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (1 November 2011):
 You are being much too hard on yourself!
The fact of the matter is, things happen. Your brother's car broke down and he needed his brother-in-law's help, which he willingly gave.
Has it occurred to you that your husband might have been tired when he got home, and seeing you were asleep was considerate enough not to wake you??
Perhaps you could have had your "rendevous" early Saturday morning instead, but if you didn't, there will be another time. Meantime, what's done is done. Don't fret over it - it doesn't seem as though your husband is!
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reader, PerhapsNot +, writes (1 November 2011):
 You cannot be serious, right?! It's one missed day of sex lady, not the end of the world! It's mind boggling that you feel like a "bad wife" over this. Would you rather he barged in, woke you up and demanded sex? Would that make you feel more wifely?
You're blowing this way out of proportion - and I mean COMPLETELY. If this is the type of stuff that keeps you up at night, you don't have problems.
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