A
female
age
41-50,
*ardia
writes:I don't know what to do. We've been together just over a year. I know someone said you can't love the potential, you have to love the person where they're at now. But I find myself doing both. He really does need me for several reasons. And I need him and get nauseated just thinking about my life without him. At the beginning he said it would be at least 2 years before he'd consider marriage as he wanted to finish school first. But he's since dropped it and I don't see him finishing at all now. He's started a full time job with potential for advancement instead. He once said he doesn't know what he's doing regarding this relationship. It is the longest and most committed one he's had. He says he's become a different person in this last year (for the better, and I've seen it happen). He says he doesn't want me to go anywhere and he's not looking for anyone else. But for some reason I fear that he really doesn't see his future with me. I'm afraid to bring it up, but how long do I wait to see how this plays out? Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Eyespy17 +, writes (31 October 2011):
I'm a big believer in listening to your gut.
I've ignored mine and the end result was exactly what my gut knew all along.
Bring it up .. it's better to know now than in another year when it will even be harder to break it off.
|
