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writes:I'm feeling pretty lonely and down lately, even though I have such a loving family and the bestest, funniest friends I could ever ask for. However I do seem to spend a lot of time by myself these days, and I've kinda come to the conclusion that I'd be a lot happier, and a lot less lonely if I had a boyfriend!Thing is though, it never seems to work out for me and I've kinda lost all hope. I get a lot of male attention, but with most guys I'm just not interested, then when I do actually grow to really like someone and pretty much worship the ground they walk on, it never works out for me :( the past THREE guys i've been properly interested in have ended up going back to their exes :(I'm twenty and the longest relationship I've ever been in was just 5 months long, and even then it wasn't made official. 2 months after me and him ended things, I find he's back with his ex! Am I cursed or am I just extremely unlucky?! Or just too picky :S please someone help? How do people get boyfriends these days?! I go out a lot, and I'm always meeting new people, so why is it just not working out for me? I don't want to resort to dating sites...
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question@ anon male reader (first replier)
yeah i'm VERY wary of one-night-stand guys lol! i've never got with anyone who i didn't already know, i've seen my friends get in some right messes by doing that. and I don't want to be like that! i respect myself haha. a lot of the guys who go to the same clubs as me and stuff have reputations for being man slags and that and many have tried it on but i just try to avoid them aha.
i know one day it will happen, i'm just sick of waiting! and i know i do have the ability to get to know guys well, and make them like me, so i know i'm not doing anything wrong. i just want it to work out for once! :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2011): Much like you, everyone always said "Don't worry, you're sweet and pretty and blahblahblah" (insert gagging noises here). They always said "Oh, you'll find the right one some day". Year after year passed. I was always 'boy-crazy' but never had a boyfriend (I went on maybe 5 dates EVER-never even KISSED). That was, until the summer after I turned 30-freaking-FIVE. My boyfriend dropped into my lap from the sky--truly a fairy tale romance. We've been together just over a year now. So hang in there. BE picky to a point. There's nothing wrong with knowing what you want and what you don't want. Get out & involved in the community or college, etc.(community theater, classes, I met mine through ballroom dance lessons!).
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reader, LovelessAct1  +, writes (15 December 2011):
Don't feel as though you're alone in your thoughts. A lot of perfectly normal, attractive, and fun people have these feelings about themselves, especially when there is a dry spell in their dating life. Know that you're definitely not the only one out there feeling this and that everyone goes through times when they just don't "click" with anyone around them.I know I have. It seems like any time I'm dating someone, I have other girls nipping at my heels, wishing I was single, and when a relationship doesn't work out and I'm single again, these women are no where to be found. Life just has a weird way of not being so convenient sometimes.Its good that you go out a lot and meet people, but I would suggest not writing off dating sites until you've tried them. There are plenty of free ones that aren't too much more involved than using Facebook, and can really help connect you with other singles in your area who may be looking for the same things you are. When you meet a stranger in a public setting, you don't know how compatible you are with them or if they're even looking for a relationship; when meeting up with someone from a dating site, you already know if you share interests and exactly what they claim to be looking for. Another solution; enjoy the single life! Truly, being single is fantastic, as you're living completely for yourself and don't have the same obligations or worries that come with relationships. Relationships are wonderful for their own merits, but if you can't respect yourself being single, you're only going to find your happiness becoming dependent on your dating life, which is a bad road to go down.Either way, good luck with everything.
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reader, eek +, writes (15 December 2011):
 from reading your message you round like a lovely Sweet lady that just has not found the right man yet. Dont let it get you down. im stuck in the same situation as you, with a simula problem with my ex.
im single and just waiting for the right person to come into my life. Im sure there is someone out there just have faith. :-)
if you want to chat more pm me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2011): Speaking from experience, finding the right person takes time. Im 25 and have been in relationships for the past 9 years (4 years, 6 months, 9 months, 2 years, and the occasional fling) and still not found a woman I feel I could spend the rest of my life with.
You say you get alot of attention, does this attention lead anywhere? If your a stunningly gorgeous girl then be weary of guys looking for one night stands, it'll only make you feel worse in the long run. Ive even felt bad after flings etc and I've never heard of guys feeling that way before!
I split with my ex 6 months ago and decided to focus on me and wait till I found a girl who I truly knew I'd be happy with... Still not found her but by focusing on me and sorting my life out I can honestly say I'm happier than ever, one day I know I'll find a girl who will take me beyond the extremes of happiness, I'm certain of that.
I know I've rambled on a bit but don't let the situation get you down, you'll find someone to be happy with, but in the mean time try to be happy without guys, it is possible you know :-) x
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