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*trawberry7
writes:HiI have been dating a guy for 2 months, he is a really good guy, he is outgoing, positive and caring. But i still think of my ex.My ex was the only guy that I felt so attracted to in my life. This happened only once in my life, thats why i thought he would be the one i should marry. He wanted to marry me too. He left me because he said that he was going through a difficult time and he didnt want to hurt me thats why he wanted to break up. When he came back to me I was with my current boyfriend. so now he is out of my life totally. I keep on thinking that i made a big mistake by dating someone else and loosing him..when i compare my ex and my current boyfriend, i like my current boyfriend's personality and the time i spend with him more than my ex. but i dont feel so attracted to my current boyfriend as I was to my ex. Also I believe that my ex loved and cared so much.I dont know if my current boyfriend loves me that much.I dont know what to do
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2011): I think you need to not be with either of these two guys because both of them have something missing. you need to move on and date more, and find someone who has more of what you want- both the attraction and the personality.
otherwise you'll be continually stuck in this "do I go for guy A or guy B " and it will never end because bottom line is that guy A has some qualities that you really need and guy B has the other qualities but neither has both so trying to choose between just these two will only go round in never ending circles and whether you go with A or B you'll end up unsatisfied.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2011): It is a very big mistake to jump into another relationship after one which was serious. Your ex now may feel you have no depth and discouraged to give it another try. The latest guy is not doing it for you. You have fear of being alone perhaps? I would end your current until your old feelings fade. You are missing your ex badly. I think maybe sexually too,hence the attraction. You saw potential in your current,but nothing else is matching.
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reader, thinkb4  +, writes (15 December 2011):
You need to take a break. I think you are still in love with your ex but the current guy seemed a safer option. It has not worked. It may be too late in reuniting with your ex now, but you need to get over him before anything else. You cannot make yourself love someone when you are pining for someone else.
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (15 December 2011):
 How does your current boyfriend feel?
If you're both open for something casual, then you might be able to get over your ex with this new guy. But ONLY if he knows you don't want anything serious.
If not, then break up with him, maybe give your ex a call and if that doesn't work out, take some time for yourself without any boyfriend and just work on getting over him and focusing on your own life.
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