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writes:Hello. I could really use some help ...There is this guy, let's call him Sam. Sam's always nice to me, calls me beautifull, smart, amazing, etc. Sam's funny and we share the same interests. He's the same age i am and we spend a lot of time together. Several hours every day. I feel always good when i am with him. Unlike the most people Sam's really very kind to me. And he is 100% flirting with me. He often kisses me and tries other things :x. The only problem is Sams girlfriend. When she isn't around it is almost like she wouldn't exist. But when she is around they are all over each other. cuddling, holding hands, "darling". It always breaks my heart. He says he's sorry when he sees i'm sad and tries to make me feel better and calls himself an idiot and tells me he doesn't want to hurt me and he'd understand if i wouldn't want to see him again. But i want to see Sam again every time. He tells me every now and then we should try to only be friends but that never really works. I really don't know what to do. It breaks my heart when he is with her but it also breaks my heart when i try to stay away from him.And Yes, i know that i'm a awful person because of this stuff ...Thanks for your helpPS: I'm sorry for my bad english
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2011): Thank you for your help. :)
I know that he wouldn't leave her for me and I also know I can't trust him and I wouldn't even want to be his girlfriend, but it is hard for me to stay away. I don't know why. I know it is stupid and it will break my heart but i just can't help liking him. He is almost like a drug.
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reader, SmilySmily  +, writes (16 December 2011):
hello dear, i was actually in the very same situation (or worse probably) with this german boy I loved.he was back home on holidays, i was there taking german course, we met each other through a common friend. he was so flirting with me from the beginning but i said no- i should not date a guy who is in a relationship with this girl for nearly 3 years..but things happened, we were like inseparable, we hang out all the time together, having the best time! but I heard him talking to his girlfriend saying baby, i love you all that on the phone... he said sorry and all..well keep it to short, at the end it did not work for us, after 3 months of holiday romance he went to london (to live with his girlfriend) and i came back home.. but after 1 year, (we were still talking to each other on the phone, skype etc and were v close friends) i tried to forget about him and i thought i did but he invited me to london (he broke up with his girl) and treated me so well.. something could happen there but i knew that i loved him so much and had the best time...but i can not trust him if he was to be my boyfriend.. and he knew too and he was deeply sorry for what he had done to me. we still remain good friends (which many people find hard to believe) but not talking as much as before.. and he recently got back to his girlfriend.anyways .. what i learnt is that- do not go and hang out with a boy who has a girlfriend. some say it is okay since she is not his wife but no...i do not agree..at the end of the day, it is you who will have to get over, recover from the heartbreak...not him (he might lose you but not his girlfriend) ..you need to talk to him how you feel about him and how you want him and if his answer is not you... you leave him immediately!!!...no point in hanging around..good luck!! :) hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2011): Well your not an awful person. You just let your feeling get the best of you with the wrong man. I am going to give you my honest advice. I have been in the same situation and I could honestly say you should step away from that relationship. It sounds to me that he doesn't want to leave his girl and if that is the case you should just stay away from him. If there is no way you can be friends with him then there's no point in trying for your own emotional protection. At the end of the day your going to be the one who is hurt. not him and not her. He'll be to busy with her to think about your feelings. I'm sorry you feel like this and I truly understand what your going through. You need to feel peace with yourself so do what your heart tell you. You can also try talking to him about your feelings and see where he's at with all of this. I hope you make the right decision and be happy about it! :)
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (15 December 2011):
 Your not an awful person you've just fell for a guy who happens to have a girlfriend.
The way he is behaving it looks to me as if he has the best of both worlds.
He has his girlfriend on one side (who doesn't know a thing) AND you.
What makes you think you can trust him when he's playing around like that?
To be blunt, some guys say ANYTHING to get a woman to do their bidding.
You can tell by his intentions.
His intentions are clear because he is not leaving his girlfriend for you.
If he really wanted to be with you why doesn't he break it off with her and get with you?
If he cared and had morals would he not at least break it off with her instead of playing with her heart too?
Personally I would take his advise and stop seeing him as he has no intention of leaving his girlfriend for you.
You deserve to be treated much better.
He knows what he is doing when he's kissing her in front of you.
He is playing games and he is a cheat.
He cannot be trusted is that someone you want with you?
I hope this helps!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2011): You should stay away from him.If you ever got together with him who says he's not going to find another girl and do to you the same thing he's doing to his girlfriend? Would you be able to trust him?I think it's better to move on now than to get even more hurt in the future. If he really liked you he would already have broken up with his girlfriend to stay with you and you only.
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