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writes:I accidentally made two agreements on the same day, Friday evening. At first I thought I only had a group of friends to meet, and then another friend of mine called to remind me about a meeting I had planned with her. We were supposed to discus something important (we're dating as well), and I thought I could meet my other group of friends on Saturday instead, to play a role playing game. So I told her I'd meet with her instead of meet my other group of friends as it was more important we have the talk we planned. Then I find out that one of my friends can't meet at another day after all, because he's leaving on Christmas break, and might be gone around 2 weeks. So I asked the girl if she wouldn't mind meeting at another day, she got pissed off at me, and then said she can't meet me at another day either and is offended I even asked. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2011): Why not do both? Surely you can go have your chat with her and then invite her to go meet your friend with you. You can do both. Now if it's a case of not a chance of doing both then choose her. You're friend will always be your friend and he'll forgive you for not being able to meet up with him that night. Whereas it sounds like the girl isn't going to be as forgiving.
Look find a way to do both, it's always possible. Maybe meet your friend during the day, before you meet her or take the girl to the bar your friend will be at after you've had your chat.
Spend an hour with the friend and the night with the girl. Simple.
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reader, LovelessAct1  +, writes (15 December 2011):
Well, when you think about it, you did, whether you remember it or not, make obligations with her first. Certainly I'd be a little upset if someone who was important to me, with whom I needed to discuss something of importance with, asked if they could reschedule so they could play some games with friends.I understand that your friend may be gone for a few weeks and that you have your own hobbies/interests that you like to do on weekends in your spare time. I think almost everyone on this site has been in a similar situation in choosing between a significant other and hanging out with their friends. But in the end, she should have more priority, due to the seeming importance of your talk as well as the fact that you made plans with her first.Tell your friends that its not going to work that night. Maybe if your "talk" doesn't go so long, you can meet up with them later, but don't try and rush it. If she's important to you, you need to give her the alotted time you both deserve. Good luck.
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