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writes:Hi there, I'm 19 and have been sexually active since I was 15.... I've been with 3 guys and all of those I've been in long term relationships with. I enjoy sex but it doesn't make me orgasm and my clit is normally to sensitive when I'm having sex so I don't think I'd be able to orgasm that way during sex either. I can cum through clit stimulation afterwards, and through oral sex but that takes longer. It's never really bothered me because I thought it was quite normal for women not to be able to orgasm from sex but my new boyfriend doesnt seem to think so and it think its upsetting him that he cant pleasure me through sex.
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reader, Crazykatee +, writes (19 December 2011):
I dont threw sex, but when my boyfriend goes down on me then i do, sex just doesnt tickle the right places for me, try doing other things that u enjoy, ur man needs to learn ur body x
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2011): You're boyfriend is as inexperienced as hell. Simply explain to him you're a clit stim girl and if he's so worried about it to google what that means because he obviously has no idea that most women don't actually orgasm through penetration.
It's not rocket science OP and if he's doesn't get that after you explain this fact to him then you're probably better off without someone more mature who doesn't base their sexual expectations on what they see in porn.
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reader, LovelessAct1  +, writes (15 December 2011):
No need to worry, you are completely normal and women are often unique in the ways they are sensitive to sexual stimulation.Its likely he's making a big deal out of it because he feels that it puts a blemish on his sexual status. Through movies and television men are often led to believe that women should be completely helpless, writhing balls of orgasm any time a penis gets near them, and that a man's worth is somehow correlated to his prowess in the bedroom. This is an image that becomes problematic as reality is not even close to that.Your boyfriend needs to learn a little more about sex and you both need to sit down and have a discussion. Don't outright accuse him of feeling sexually threatened or inadequate, for this may cause him to shut down and not want to talk at all. But start by explaining to him that you realize he's upset with how the sex has been going, but that its not your fault and you both just need to take some time to experiment with what works for both of you.Even if you can't orgasm from regular intercourse, that doesn't mean there is anything wrong with him finishing you off in other ways aftwards. In the end, both parties are left satisfied.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (15 December 2011):
 Yes you are normal., your boyfriend just has ridiculous expectations. It shows a real lack of understanding for female anatomy and sexuality for him to get upset when you don't orgasm from intercourse. Only 25% of women ever have an orgasm from intercourse alone. Yes it would be nice if men and women enjoyed all the same things, but unfortunately it doesn't work that way. You should sit your boyfriend down and explain to him that you are normal and it's unrealistic for him to expect you to be having orgasms from intercourse when the reality is women have very few nerve endings inside our vaginas. Explain it that it would be like asking him to orgasm just from rubbing his scrotum and nothing else. It feels good, but it won't get you there.
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