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writes:My bf and I have been dating for more than two years now and we finally went to meet a female friend of his on wednesday. She completely avoided eye contact with me and did not talk with me, after my bf got in his car and apologized about her. I talked to him the next night about it and said that you know what it did bother me could he talk to her. He started defending her, and that is when I got hurt and would not back down. He told me things about her that really bothered me. She wanted to end the friendship bc he would not text her when he was at work or with me. After two days of arguments he talked to her. She told him that it didn't happen and their friendship is over, when I noticed how hurt he was I texted her asking to start over. She told me that she didnt need to start over. my bf started talking with her and told her that he did defend her and how he never thought she was rude. He laid everything on me. I am pretty upset that he would do this and not defend me to her and for him even defending her when he apologized for her in the first place. My boyfriend left for boot camp and she called me, told me that she will get to know me just for the sake of it not being awkward. She told me during that conversation that my bf had asked her for years to meet me but she told him no. Then when he told her that he wanted to marry me she gave him an ultimatum to text her way more or they wouldn't be friends. When we were talking on the phone she told me that my bf never talked about me and finds it weird that all of a sudden he tells her that he is going to marry me. Also, that her relationship with my bf is that they tell each other everything, they are open with each other. This girl really rubs me the wrong way. I'm meeting with her soon, is she trying to mess with my mind? I can't talk with my bf for another month and I am freaking out. Did he really not talk about me?
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reader, cinc71  +, writes (20 December 2011):
 Ok i'm in really similar situation. I think I feel like your husband. I have a male BFF and I do like the attention he gives me I admit. Maybe it's the same thing with your husband? I adore my boyfriend, he's my soulmate and there's nothing going on with my bff and never will be but we are often together we know each other from A to Z. We are really close and my bf knows it and is secure about our relationship. Maybe it's the same situation for your boyfriend? I really appreciate having a male best friend it's different. BUT my bff doesn't flirt with me or try anything to break us up. I think you need to keep her close, maybe she is in love with your boyfriend and even if nothing happened she knows he chose YOU and feels uncomfortable around you. Male/female relationship is tricky because often one do fall in love. Good luck and keep us informed how it goes! Good luck. You can write me if you want :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2011): Well, my first thought after reading this through is, Yes she's messing with you and don't trust this chick. She knows you can't talk to him for another month to confirm any of her story so she's likely planting seeds and stirring shit between you and him. It's pretty apparent to me that she is trying to downplay your role in his life (with her) because she feels more entitled to his attention. Is she an ex girlfriend perhaps? If you're going to meet with her (why?) keep it short and sweet. Don't let anything she says bother you. In fact, if I were you, the only thing I'd really ask her is if she's upset about us getting married and if she's got any problem with me. Because I'd find it weird she refused to meet me, you know. Just keep in mind that you're the one he's planning on getting hitched to so you already have the upper hand. Give the impression that you're confident in his love and don't slip once. Make her second guess herself and her assumptions about your relationship. Don't let her think you're worried about her or intimidated. I can say for sure is this girl doesn't want to be friends and isn't happy about you being in the picture. She's jealous so don't let her get to you. Because I'd bet money on everything she says turning out to be bullshit, like how your BF reacted for example. Sounds like BS to me. Good luck.
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