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writes:Do you ever get over loosing your soulmate?? I know some of you may look at this and think "your young you will find someone else and be happy" but I am so heart broken and just cant imagine a life with anyone else. I was in love with the man I call my soul mate the first time I saw him, before I really even knew what love was. we could talk about anything and everything, we could be ourselves with each other, he worked so hard to make me happy....and now he is gone (he passed away a week ago, so its not like he left me because he moved on to someone else or anything) and I just cant imagine being with anyone else! He was the one I wanted to spend my life with, and I was wondering if you ever get over it and move on, because right now I feel like I will never be over it....and also, if you ever did end up with someone else in this life in the next would you end up back with your first love and soul mate or with the person you were with after him? because lord knows I would hate to not get to be with him in the next life too if there is one. But I ask cause people tell me time will make things better and I will be happy and with someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2016): I was just on google in regards to this topic and came across this. I know exactly how you're feeling. I met the most amazing guy with the most sweetest soul early this year. I've never felt so comfortable, but most importantly so loved by a guy. He really treated me like a queen at all times, we really loved being together even sitting in his room chatting away. We were both genuinely happy together. After 10 months of being together he had a massive cardiac arrest and died -just like that all of the sudden and out of the blue.its been a week since his passing and im totally heartbroken. I havent stopped crying, im beyond devasted. I miss him like crazy as we spoke everyday and seen one another everyday. I feel totally the same way as you because I really wanted to be with this sweet man, my soul mate. I cannot think of replacing him with another man. He has set the standard so high when it comes to how I would like to be treated by a man im afraid I will never find a guy like him ever. I dont want another guy. I want him back. Im hoping when my time comes and I pass over to the afterlife Im going to hunt my soul mate down and we're getting married then and there! :) I love you AM. I will never forget you ever!! Love you long time babe xo see u in the afterlife xo RIP my sweet heart xo
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reader, dazednconfused90 +, writes (18 December 2011):
dazednconfused90 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank all of you so much for your answers, it has brought me some comfert.
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reader, mwarren +, writes (16 December 2011):
 your soulmate is for eternity,you will meet up again in another life.Although it is hard now you will have the strength to go on. Dont worry about meeting someone new. It will happen naturally and you will be happy again. Your soulmate was here for a reason , you met for a reason and he left for a reeason. Some people never experience what you did in a lifetime . You should feel blessed to have it ,and you will again. you will be together again, Have hope and love and things will work out
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (16 December 2011):
 I do not think you ever "get over" your soulmate, or loved one, if they die. I have two aunts who have remained single since their significant others died. I am not so sure about the story of the one aunt, but she has been single for over 20 years now, she was engaged at one point in her life, but she's very secretive about what happened. My mother told me her fiancee died in a car crash, where she was also involved. This aunt has also told me that it is better to be alone without the wrong partner, than to be with someone just to be with someone. So she chose to be alone.
I have another aunt who is over 90 now, and her husband and child died some 40 years ago. She never re-married, and had no other children, even though she was just around 30 when they died and could have found someone else.
I don't think you get over your loved one, or soulmate if you choose to call them that. But, I do think that you can love again. You can't meet a "new" soulmate, but you can love. In another life, or in heaven, you will meet the ones you loved, which can include your soulmate and whomever else you chose to love while on earth. However no matter who else you love, if you have a special connection with someone that special connection will always be there, regardless of whom else you let into your heart. The heart is big enough to love more than one person. You love your family too, and your friends. Of course you can love another man again, if you want to open your heart up. It will not be a replacement of your feelings for the loved one who passed away. It will be an addition to it. And your heart is big enough to hold the love for many people.
Right now you do not need to make any decisions about moving on or not. Right now you should grieve your loss, and not focus on whether or not you wish to find another type of love in your life. If it feels right to love again, later on, do not worry. Whatever love you feel will never replace the love you had for your soulmate. Each love you feel is different for each person, and do not replace anyone. You can continue to love your soulmate while you love another man, so do not worry about needing to let him go. He will stay with you always, because he was someone very special to you.
If you do not want to love another man, if it does not feel right for you, then you don't have to. You must find out what is right for you. But remember that things happen for a reason, and while it is hurting you so much, you can grow strong from this, and that strength could be what is meant to help someone else later in life. Your soulmate gave you the gift of loving another, and the challenge it is to live without that love. And you must continue to live, and see what life holds in store for you, and use the strength you gain to help yourself and others.
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reader, Shadow Rose +, writes (16 December 2011):
 I'm sorry for your loss, but I can speak from experience. I was in an LDR with a guy who my friend introduced me to, and he ended up getting drunk and getting in an accident. I was heartbroken, and it took me about a year to get over it, and now I know I've found my true soulmate.
Although, about 10 months after his death, I found out he was a lying, cheating, underage drinker jerk....
So that kind of made my grievance shorter...
But dont worry, time heals all wounds!
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reader, chocoholicforever +, writes (16 December 2011):
I'm so sorry for your loss, it must be so painful and heart wrenching. It's a lot to go through at such a young age. I know it doesn't sound like much comfort right now, but time will make the pain go away some.
I think he would want you to be happy, and to some day find someone new to spend the rest of your life with.
You can love more than one person deeply. Many people whose partners have passed away, do eventually fall in love and even marry.
As for what happens in the afterlife, and who you will be reunited with when you die, I think that depends on your personal religious views. My personal belief is that you will be reunited with everyone you have ever loved.
Just take it one day at a time, and don't worry about the future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2011): I'm so very sorry. I can't imagine what you must be going through right now, and it doesn't matter that you're young; losing someone you feel you had such a connection with would be unbearably painful at any age. I know that no words will be enough to provide you with the sense of peace and resolution you're looking for at the moment, but I'll give you my views (do bear in mind they'll be subjective though!) on this in the hope that it'll bring you some comfort :)As a believer in God and reincarnation, I think that the one thing which survives death (apart from the soul) is love. When someone dear to you passes away, your love for them – and theirs for you – remains intact, only they're no longer here on a physical level to express it. Love may come in many different forms; romantic love, platonic love, devotional love etc. But as you see, they're all from the same source. So even if you fall in love with someone else in this life, it doesn't change or diminish what you felt for your soulmate while he was here. Human hearts have a lot of love to give; you'll never forget or stop loving your soulmate, but we feel a basic need for companionship during our mortal lives. Look at couples who've been married for decades: one spouse passes away, and the one left behind may develop a platonic but strong friendship with another person of the opposite sex. Nonetheless, the memories and the love of a lifetime will remain with the living spouse until it's their time to depart too. I believe that yes, soulmates will see each other again in another life – although it may not be in the same context as it was in this one. When we speak of soulmates we tend to think in terms of a romantic relationship, but again, I think soulmate connections take different forms. It can be between lovers, family members, friends, or even strangers! Who knows, maybe there's actually more than just one person with whom you can feel that romantic "made for each other" connection. Whatever the case, I'm sure that everyone we meet is for a purpose - and we'll certainly meet again. Finally, I believe in Heaven. And there, I don't think that love is personal – in the sense that someone's soul doesn't have an identity as we know it. It simply *is*. So to put all of this into the context of your question, I believe that you will see your soulmate again. I believe that your love for one another still exists on a spiritual plane. I know that you will love another in your life, and that love will be very different from the one you've known – after all, you'll be connecting with a completely new soul! But by no means will it take anything away from what you've shared with the one who's just passed on. Perhaps not everyone has the chance to spend their mortal life with their soulmate. It doesn't mean that you can't still enjoy every moment of your time here on earth, because the world is full of beautiful, wonderful people with a lot to give and teach. I think that everything happens for a reason, even if we don't consciously know it. Maybe you couldn't be with your soulmate this time round, but who's to say that will be the case the next time? I'll leave you with one of my favourite quotes – "above all things, even wisdom, is love." That's from the Bible. No power in the Universe is greater than love. So give it, receive it, and change the world with it - because you can. Time is indeed a great healer. And as it passes, you'll gain perspective, and your own soul will find the serenity it needs. Good luck and God Bless, sweetheart. I'm sure he'd be very, very proud of you x
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reader, person12345 +, writes (15 December 2011):
 I'm so sorry this happened. What you need most is just time to grieve. You will never forget him, but eventually you will be able to love someone else and live your life. I hope you have close friends and family members who can help you through this, don't hesitate to turn to them for support.
I know it feels like right now you will never be able to move on and find someone else, but with time you will.
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