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writes:So I think this problem is with me and my trust issues, but I'm not sure. We've been together about a year. I know he loves me. After talking with him about a lot of things, more and more he has made his affection for me more obvious--he has opened up to me and reaches out to me. He knows when I seem upset about something. He asks, and he wants to make it right and to make me happy.We spend 4 nights a week together. The other 3 days he works the 4:30pm to 1:00am. He has one close friend besides me and rarely goes out with them (he's a very solitary creature of sorts). He went out to breakfast a couple weeks ago with someone else. He told me about it (I didn't ask for details and didn't press to know exactly who it was he was with). In my gut I don't believe he is cheating on me, but my brain works overtime and I wonder who he texts with, knowing how small his social circle is. Could just be the guys from work. Could be that stupid dating SIM app he has. It makes me nervous and I really don't want to hurt him and make him think I doubt him by asking him about this, but it's driving me crazy! Any suggestions?
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reader, bluecow  +, writes (12 December 2011):
 Why dont you be straight about it?
I cant understand how after being together a year, your not comfortable enough to ask who he was meeting for breakfast. I would think some gentle encouragement for him to widen his social circle is a good thing. Its more than likely it was just an innocent breakfast, but because you didnt ask at the time you are now getting worried. It could have gone something like this:
Him: I'm having breakfast with a mate on friday
You: oh good! where are you going? do they do your favourite pankakes/eggs/bacon?
Him: not sure but i'll find out when we get there
You: have a good time honey, who are you meeting?
Him: mark from work
You: oh good, You havent been out in ages so it'll be nice to catch up outside of work
See how simple that could have been?
Same for the texting... just outright ask him. Dont accuse him just mention you noticed he was texting a lot, and wondered who he was chatting to.
If you dont feel able to ask these simple questions, or if you wont believe the answers - then its time you work on your communication or move on.
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