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writes:Does anyone else think that this guy has something to hide? Ive being going with this guy for over a year and I have never met his friends apart from one. I have never met any of his family. His family know about me but to how much i dont know.He has no children there is no ex on the scene and he has never being married. His friend who I have met a few times once said that I was the only girlfriend he had ever told him about.I only go to his house when his gran is away, that is who he lives with. He has met my parents and friends. He has being to family occassions and just being to his friends babies chrisining but has never once asked me to go. He says he keeps himself to himself but you dont keep your girlfriend away from people you know do you? There is 7 year between us he is 27 and I am 20 but I dont think that is the issue.I have spoke to him about it but he just says people who ask me know about you. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the replies guys. I have sat him down and asked him why I haven't met his family and how I want to be a bigger part of his life. My mam works with his mam. My mother works with his mam and my mother thinks he has told her not to say anything to my mother or anyone else. He is private person he has told me that but you don't keep someone away from your family when you love them. He also puts me down quite a bit and is controlling to an extent. He dosent have the nicest of families and his mother is quite volatile and most people don't like her and she is very opiniated.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (13 December 2011):
 He does sound like a fairly private guy to be honest, if his friend said to you that you are the first girlfriend he has every mentioned well that shows he doesnt talk much about girlfriends, let alone have anyone meet his girlfriends!
But not to meet his family in a whole year of being together...that would worry me. When you are in a relationship you would would normally want your partner to meet your family as family are important and you want your partner to get on with your family. So yes, it does seem strange that you have never met any of his family.
I think you need to sit down with him and explain that it worries you that you have been together for a year now and have not met his family - explain that you would like to meet his family and feel more like a part of his life rather than something seperate to the rest of his life. See what he has to say and then take it from there.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (13 December 2011):
 The only reason (that comes to mind) as to why he hasn't let you in on his life is that he may be embarrassed by the age gap.
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