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writes:She's 21, and i'm in my late 20's; we're in grad. school together. She was obviously interested in me for over a month. Then, there was some petty drama (frustration--finals). After, she would answer my calls, but then be evasive. Then she started ignoring me and talking to my friends in front of me(ignoring me all the while--one even brought this to my attention, that this girl never had any interest in speaking to her before). Now she seems to ignore me entirely, but I have this feeling that she has some vindictive plan. I tried to have a sit-down with her but she straight-up rejected me. What is going on? How can I resolve this? Is she no-longer interested? What can i do to resolve this, because it's very distracting (small school)? I see her every day and there's uncomfortable tension. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 December 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionnow i'm being ignored and any attempt to reach out is met with a sharp response. not sure if she wants the power/to be chased or maybe just left alone. she immediately moved on to some other dude. not sure if she's trying to make me jealous, or maybe she's just that flaky and i'm that vain. what's her psychology?
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reader, EbonyBlossom  +, writes (12 December 2011):
 That incredibly immature for a 21 year old! Honestly, if she's behaving this way I would leave her and look for someone more mature. Either that or ask her why she's doing what she's doing, and what you've done wrong? If she refuses to cooperate then just forget about her because you don't need or deserve the stress. I know it's not easy to move on just like that, but staying with her will prevent you from forming a relationship with someone more mature and honest.
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reader, chickpea2011 +, writes (12 December 2011):
 Hi,
I don't know her, but she's a little immature. Vindictive plan? Why and what makes you think this way?
I know you tried to talk to her, but you need to try again. She's obviously angry with you because you did something. She's ignoring you because she's hurt and in pain. You see her everyday, and it must be difficult for you and uncomfortable.
Next time you see her, approach her nicely and ask her if you guys can get a cup if coffee and talk. Don't be embarrassed to talk to her infront of other people... Tell her that you are confused by her behavior, and you don't know she's angry with you. Ask her to give you a change to understand so you can explain yourself. Tell her that you care for her and you don't like how things are between the 2 of you now...
Hopefully she will accept your invitation and you both can solve this terrible misunderstanding.
Good luck/best wishes..
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