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writes:my ex left me out of nowhere, then randomly a week later called me one night, because he heard i saw one of my exs that he doesnt get along with, he was going off on me saying "did you f**k him did you f**k him!?!?" i finally got off the phone with him and he called back a little later and i was with another guy (just a friend) and he flipped out asking where i was...went to the place i said i was and screamed saying i was lying. He was acting crazy. i found out he was drunk, his friend called me and said he was sitting at my house waiting for me to get home and "he felt bad so i should go home" i didnt go home, but im pretty sure it was all a lie, i dont think he was at my house. the next day my friend was talking to him and he was basically acting like to her that he didnt care about me. i am so confused at why he did this. he was the one who chose not to be with me from the beginning. he started posting rude status directing them towards me, and his friends were going along with it, so i deleted him so i wouldnt see it and get upset. recently i found out that him and one of my exs were talking on facebook and they exchanged numbers. for the first time in 2 years since him and i have been on and off, we havent spoke in 2 months. he used to come to my apartment all the time, whether him and i were arguing or not, bc hes friends with my roomates..now no one has heard from him at all. today i went to search him on facebook and nothing came up, i figured out that after i deleted him, when he realized he blocked me. i want to call him and try and make things right but only if thats the right thing to do. i dont know what to do!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2011): This Guy ENDED things with you and therefore has no say who you hang with. He disrespected you and acted like a freaking Psycho, verbally abused you in public - and you want to do what is right?
Yah, its tell him to stay the F away and call the police the next time he comes around.
He has anger management issues and already shows highly physical violent behaviour towards you.
STAY AWAY. HE IS NO FRIEND. DO NOT CONTACT HIM.
Move on with your life and seek a support group to sort out why such behaviour would lead you to believe what he did was okay, acceptable, reasonable, healthy. Because now you think you owe him an apology or friendship????
BE SMART AND SAFE!
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (12 December 2011):
 No, he has been rude and obnoxious and very disrespectful and acting like a brat. He does not deserve that you call and "make things right", you didn't do anything, he did. If anyone should call it is he who should call to apologize. However you can forgive, just don't forget. Don't forget that he did this, and acted this way, because this shows his character. If he tries to smooth things over later and sugar talk to you don't buy it, remember how he has acted.
Don't call him. Calling him will make you look pathetic and like he "won" with his harassing you and bullying you, which is what he has been doing. If you call to try and make things right it'll come off to him as you are now so broken by his actions you are crawling for him to stop bullying you, which is exactly what he wants.
Don't give him that. Be proud of yourself and screw your ex. His actions only speaks about how he is as a person, and nothing of how you are as a person. You are better than that. Leave him alone and don't talk to him again, he doesn't deserve you treating him with any kind of respect or acknowledgement after the way he has treated you.
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reader, EbonyBlossom  +, writes (12 December 2011):
 I wouldn't bother. He was really nasty to you and what he did could be classed as harassment. It sounds like a classic case of 'If I can't have you then no one can.' I would just leave him in the past and get on and do your own thing. If you patch things up, it might take more effort than it's worth and it could go wrong all over again. Find someone new and forget about him. If he carries on harassing you, go to the police =]
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