What are some precautions I should take when starting a friendship with an older man?
Q. OK,So I was on the bus and I heard two guys speak about America,one was like 30ish and the other was an old man,around 70.They didn't know each other,they were just conversating.Since I have a passion for America,I kindly interrupted them and asked ...
A. 10 March 2010: Appearances can be deceptive. Most rape cases are perpetuated by friends or friendly people or relatives.
There is no way we can read what's inside their mind. The only way is not to be too trusting of any man ,even old men or very young boys.
... (read in full...)
Why do I love him so?
Q. My boyfriend and i dated for about a year and i loved him unconditionally infact i still do. In the second month of our relationship i found out that his ex girlfriend was pregnant with his child. He assured me that this happend before we go ...
A. 9 March 2010: He did not love you at all and he has totally lost interest .If he loves you , he would not do those things to you.
He is a cheater and he thinks you cheated too.Cheaters always think that way.
He is not the deserving man for you . Give him u... (read in full...)
What are some precautions I should take when starting a friendship with an older man?
Q. OK,So I was on the bus and I heard two guys speak about America,one was like 30ish and the other was an old man,around 70.They didn't know each other,they were just conversating.Since I have a passion for America,I kindly interrupted them and asked ...
A. 9 March 2010: Never trust strangers or any men and don't give your telephone numbers to people whom you just met.You don't want to get calls from some weirdo's or perverts.
A person may look old and educated but you never know what goes on in their minds.Be... (read in full...)
He used to be so passionate! Why is he resisting me now?
Q. I was wondering if you could help. I have been seeing my other half for 5 months, but it is recently i have noticed he dosent kiss me the same anymore. Its like he always pulls away first and does not use tongues anymore and there is no passion. I ...
A. 6 March 2010: It has to do with man's psychology. They will go all out at first and then they will slack because they cannot maintain that pace.
While the girl will be slow at first and later will want more of it.Her expectations are high and when she gets les... (read in full...)
How do I deal with these bad boys?
Q. at school normally im seen as the good girl. im the quiet one. the clever one. the one that never does anything bad. never been drunk. dont have sex. saying that.....never had a boyfriend.... my problem is, i've fallen hard for a bad boy. i have ...
A. 6 March 2010: A man is judged by the company he keeps. Either he leaves his bad company for you or you stop seeing him or just be friends only.
If you follow him and and goes with his crowd,it is
just like a herd of buffaloes in a mud hole, if you are a clean ... (read in full...)
What are some precautions I should take when starting a friendship with an older man?
Q. OK,So I was on the bus and I heard two guys speak about America,one was like 30ish and the other was an old man,around 70.They didn't know each other,they were just conversating.Since I have a passion for America,I kindly interrupted them and asked ...
A. 6 March 2010: Keep your distance and you don't have to go out with him. Give excuses. Talk only when you accidentally meet otherwise don't go out with him. You might give him the wrong signals.... (read in full...)
Suspicious boyfriend may be gay.
Q. Is my boyfriend gay? He doesn't like to really do anything with me he rather hang out with the guys. We have sex maybe once a week because most of the time when he comes he tired and goes to sleep. I asked him once and he got very defensive saying ...
A. 6 March 2010: He could be unsure of his sexuality .He maybe gravitating towards being a gay or he could soon to be a closet gay.
He is immature and childish , preferring to hang out with his buddies who could be singles.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend watches porn but not in mood for me?
Q. ok, I have read some of the same posts but would like to also share my dilemma and could use advice and support. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months, lived together for 4.5 months. 3 months ago,I rolled over in bed and caught him view...
A. 6 March 2010: Why Some Men Prefer Masturbation to Sex with Women.
Some men masturbate even after they are married. When they want some fast sexual relief , they just do it.
In masturbation, men can escape into their fantasies. They do not have to worry th... (read in full...)
Boyfriend watches porn but not in mood for me?
Q. ok, I have read some of the same posts but would like to also share my dilemma and could use advice and support. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 months, lived together for 4.5 months. 3 months ago,I rolled over in bed and caught him view...
A. 6 March 2010: If you are not happy in your relationship , why stay ? You have given your best but something which is very important to you is not there.
You will have to decide if it is worth staying without your needs being met .Or you could give him more tim... (read in full...)
I'm scared that I'll lose him completely before we work this out
Q. i split up with my partner when i was 7 months pregnant. a few months later he met someone else, we always got on really well. after nearly 2 years he split up with her and i wanted him back. he stayed up over christmas an we ended up sleeping ...
A. 6 March 2010: Do your best and give him your love unconditionally.Treat him well and he will not go away.Think more positive.
Sometimes act like the damsel in distress and bring out the man in him.
That's all you can do.... (read in full...)
Why is he blowing hot and cold? Anyone ever experienced this before?
Q. I met a guy in a club a few weeks ago, we had been eyeing each other up all night and eventually got chatting. At the end of the night he walked me to my taxi, asked for my phone number and said he would be in touch the next day. I thought it was ...
A. 6 March 2010: He could have saw or discovered something about you and it was not agreeable with him and he switched off.
He has got a new target.
He could be very busy or off to some faraway trip.
He could be sick or met with an accident.
His phone c... (read in full...)
I broke up with my boyfriend thinking he would want me back, now I don't know what to do!
Q. Hi everyone i need advice i broke up with my boyfriend thinking it would make him see wat he had once it was gone but he didnt chase after me we barely talk now he says he misses me after i tell him i miss him but i cant stop thinking about him he ...
A. 5 March 2010: Ask him to come out and parlay, Say you are sorry , kiss and hug and make up. If he is willing to come out to meet you , half your battles are won. Give it a try.... (read in full...)
Can a guy urinate inside the girl during intercourse???
Q. I know that this is going to sound kind of dumb but I'm just a bit confused and would like answers, without making a fool out of myself. Okay here goes nothing... can a guy urinate inside the girl during intercourse??? it just seems possible to me ...
A. 5 March 2010: This is a funny question. I believed it is impossible to urinate when the man is inside the woman. When you want to ejaculate, your bladder is blocked and only semen comes out.
You can only urinate when you are completely withdrawn from her. Thi... (read in full...)
Can I get pregnant if I've never had a period?
Q. ok i am 24yrs old and i never in my life had a period. yea i know weird, but recently my bf and i had sex and for this whole week i have been feeling nasuaded. Now my question is can i still get preganat without having a monthly cycle?...
A. 5 March 2010: Technically if you don't ovulate or have periods, you cannot be pregnant.
I suggest you go to see a doctor about your nauseating problem. It could be some other thing.
The first sign of pregnancy is usually the absence of a period. Other sy... (read in full...)
Will my trust for him ever be restored?
Q. Once trust has been lost do you think it's possible to regain it again? I constantly got hurt when I was with my boyfriend and left me with trust issues. Now its two years later and he seems genuine with me but I have a fear in the pit of my stomach ...
A. 5 March 2010: In this world , you should never trust anyone but only trust yourself.Those you trust the most , steal the most. You know more than you think you do.
With that , don't simply give your trust to others. It could be anyone whether he is your boy... (read in full...)
Thinking of giving up relationships.
Q. How can a woman stay off relationships forever? I'm considering that route. I'm really young at 21 to make such a decision, but I don't know. I'm attracted to men, both sexually and romantically. No attraction to women whatsoever. But there are ...
A. 5 March 2010: Get two or three jobs or do more social work to keep yourself busy and you will not have the time to sit and think about affections or watch romantic flicks.... (read in full...)
Love is a one way street!
Q. My husband and I have been married for 7 1/2 years and we no longer have sex. The last time was in 2006. He says he loves me but doesn't want to be intimate at all. We've both gained about 40 lbs each over the last 6 years and he says we're too fat ...
A. 5 March 2010: "I probably am doing something that has caused this but without his input I am lost for what to do to fix it."
Sometimes, it is some unkind and hurtful words which can kill off a man's libido.
A man is very sensitive when it comes to his mon... (read in full...)
Mutual friend tried to break us up - now it's ok?
Q. My boyfriend and I dated (2 years), broke up and got back together (last 4 years). In the time we broke up, he became friends with a gay man (no, my boyfriend is not gay or bi). When my boyfriend and I got back together, I became very good friends ...
A. 5 March 2010: I think you should just let it go and not dig up the dirt again . Let it be buried and move on . It will not do anyone any good by bringing it up again.
Your b/f have already decided and you should respect his decisions.
You need to change y... (read in full...)
Why do I love him so?
Q. My boyfriend and i dated for about a year and i loved him unconditionally infact i still do. In the second month of our relationship i found out that his ex girlfriend was pregnant with his child. He assured me that this happend before we go ...
A. 5 March 2010: You have been used and exploited by him and after he found that your usefulness was over, he dumped you .
He was not really in love with you but was only treating you as his meal ticket.
To get over him , try to demonize him and think of all... (read in full...)
After our weekend getaway he has changed.
Q. Last weekend, I slept with a guy from work, we were both sober so it wasn't a drunken mistake and actually it was a long time coming after weeks of flirty texts and flirting on nights out. I had absolutely fantastic weekend with him and even took me ...
A. 5 March 2010:
The office is a great place to look for partners if you are single ,as you can observe them everyday and be better acquainted with them and see their full potentials.
The office romance is great but not without it’s perils .If you are thinking... (read in full...)
Do most prefer 'curvy' women?
Q. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-is-it-only-the-mans-biology-thats.html I want an opinion from the uncles of this site.Hopefully men will be able to shed more light on this. Is it true that majority of men only like curvaceous figur...
A. 5 March 2010:
Do Men Prefer Thin , Curvy, Voluptuous Or Big Women ?
We all come in different shapes and sizes but women have the tendency to watch their weights whenever they eat.
Their weight and size is like a strict religion for them to follow and t... (read in full...)
My mom and dad want to use my credit and then have me go bankrupt, any way I can stop them?
Q. So I have sort of a financial problem... Apparently my dad and mom want to work up my credit then have me go bankrupt I have no specicfic reasons why so dey want to ... But I have no control and if I say no they stop talking to me... Why would I ...
A. 5 March 2010: If your dad bought the house and then you are declared bankrupt, you won't have a house to live in.
The creditors would take back the house. I don't see the point in going through all that .
The only thing will be your debts will ballooned s... (read in full...)
I think she is cheating while I am at work
Q. Hi , I have been engaged to my girlfriend for 8 months and am getting married next year. I work in a job which means 3 nights a week i have to work overnight and my fiancee still lives with our parents although we are moving into our first house ...
A. 5 March 2010: Tell her that there should be no secrets between the two of you . You can read whats in each others phone. You have a right because she is your woman.... (read in full...)
Should I give them the money despite working so hard to save it to make myself more financially stable?
Q. Hi I'm facing a dilemma here. After leaving an abusive relationship of five years (which also ruined me financially; also during this time the situation was so unstable I was moving from job to job, state to state and just handing over my paychecks) ...
A. 5 March 2010: Glad to hear that everything is fine now .God has answered your prayers.... (read in full...)
I think she is cheating while I am at work
Q. Hi , I have been engaged to my girlfriend for 8 months and am getting married next year. I work in a job which means 3 nights a week i have to work overnight and my fiancee still lives with our parents although we are moving into our first house ...
A. 4 March 2010: You need to be extra careful and not be too quick to jump into conclusions or you will live to regret it.
You can confront her and asked her about those text and hear what she has to say first .
It would be fairer this way to give her a chanc... (read in full...)
Love is a one way street!
Q. My husband and I have been married for 7 1/2 years and we no longer have sex. The last time was in 2006. He says he loves me but doesn't want to be intimate at all. We've both gained about 40 lbs each over the last 6 years and he says we're too fat ...
A. 4 March 2010: Do not give up hope. I would advise you to fall in love again with him.Remember those days when you first met .
Go for holidays together and try to do more things together.... (read in full...)
Guy has his attention on me, does this mean that he is interested?
Q. There's a guy at my dance school, he's my partner for a few dances. I'm pretty new to the school, only been there a month and a bit, and I quite like this guy. We're partners for some rather intimate dances, and I'm confused as to whether he likes ...
A. 4 March 2010: Give him a chance and strike up a friendship with him.Get to know him and see if you can click with each other.
Nothing venture , nothing gain.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend attended a "filthy" lap dancing club..and had a dance!
Q. Hi everyone ... Please read my story , because I just dont know what to do and Im constantly privately in tears . I found out by pressuring one of the guys ( and thats a story in itself ) That my b/f of 3 1/2 years attended a " filthy " lap d...
A. 4 March 2010: It's a man's world.
You cannot change their world. You can either accept it or don't venture there.
You have to decide if what he did was unforgivable and all those years of togetherness means nothing anymore to you .
If you can come to term... (read in full...)
Together for 6 months, he wants to live together, says no marriage in short term future, should I dig deeper,if I want more?
Q. I’ve been with my BF for just over 6 months. A while ago we talked about marriage in general and he said that he sees it as a label mostly and that getting married doesn’t mean all will be fine in the future. He’s also said that he doesn’t see ...
A. 4 March 2010: A man's word is not cast in stones. As long as we are living , everything is fluid. Opinions can change with time and maturity.
One can never understand marriage when one is standing on the outside and viewing in. When the time comes, he will hav... (read in full...)
I'm a gay guy, he flirts with me, how do I tell if he's gay or not?
Q. Theres this boy i really REALLy like,but i can't tell if he's gay or not...we have alot of the same hobbies that a normal straight guy likes to do (Longboard,swim team,etc.)and we also have somewhat the same taste in like music and movies,i ...
A. 4 March 2010: If he flirts with you , flirt back and see his reactions. You would have your answer. He could be a closet gay .
Ask him about gay issues and see where he stands.... (read in full...)
Should I tell him I love him after only 4 months of dating?
Q. I have fallen in love with a wonderful man after 4 months of dating...I get the feeling that he has to. I want to tell him, but im scared that after just 4 months, that might be to much for him to hear just yet; than it would scare him off, and he ...
A. 4 March 2010: To tell or not to tell?
If you are not absolutely sure and have fear, then you are not ready to tell yet.
If you are wearing your heart on your sleeve ,only a blind man cannot see the love in your heart.
But even a blind man can feel whats... (read in full...)
What is the limit of verbal abuse you can take from a boyfriend?
Q. Hi All! I'm looking for some brutally honest opinions/insights into tolerating bad behaviour from a partner. How many times would your limit be for verbal abuse or a partner who is on/off on/off always dumping you then coming back etc etc. I ...
A. 4 March 2010: Different people have different tolerance level. Apparently , you have a very high tolerance level because you have lost count of the number of times he has left and come back to you.
In the Bible , you have to forgive someone 7 X 7 = 49 times.Wh... (read in full...)
Would you stay with someone who has issues and try to repair things or leave?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles, I'm really hoping for some help because my situation is distressing me and I'm lost and need guidance on how to proceed. I was in a long term relationship since 2003 then we split up in Spring 2008 but spoke to each other ...
A. 4 March 2010: Always gives all your best and if your best is not enough , there is nothing more you can do.
If you have given all your best, you will not have regrets.
In every thing have love , understandings and compassion's.
Love is when the othe... (read in full...)
Attracted to older men...
Q. Hi, I don't know if any other girls 16-18 share my unfortuante, ya could say, liking for older men. By older I mean like 50. Well i've always wondered how older guys see it? I mean like do they think that these younger girls must be immature? Mus...
A. 4 March 2010: Some girls are missing their father's love when young ,either because they have absentee fathers or they were brought up in a single parent home.
They are looking for a father figure or someone who is an extension of their father's personal... (read in full...)
Obsessing over boys and can't seem to stop.
Q. Help! Why do I obsess over guys!! Its wierd I think about someone non stop for maybe even a year then that's it I forget about them. Any sugestions except to get a life? Haha thanks ...
A. 4 March 2010: Focus on what is your priorities in life and on God and what are the things that will make you happy.
Just shift your focus to other things that interest you , your friends, hobbies,entertainments, things you like to do. etc.
... (read in full...)
Just got married, flirtatious friend of wife, I think I want to have sex with her, what should I do??
Q. Help, i got married last year and i love my wife to bits. The problum is when we go out with her friends one of them flirts with me all night. At first i didnt mind but now i really want to have sex with her. I dont know if its because i know i cant ...
A. 4 March 2010: Can you handle divorce? Can you handle the fury of a woman scorned?
Do you want to give up everything for a one night stand ?
Before you want to do anything , count the cost first!
Words said cannot be taken back and deeds done cannot be und... (read in full...)
My mom and dad want to use my credit and then have me go bankrupt, any way I can stop them?
Q. So I have sort of a financial problem... Apparently my dad and mom want to work up my credit then have me go bankrupt I have no specicfic reasons why so dey want to ... But I have no control and if I say no they stop talking to me... Why would I ...
A. 4 March 2010: No responsible parents would want to destroy their children's future for some short term gains.
Your parents intentions is to borrow money without wanting to pay back to those financial institutions.
Do you have credit cards or loans? You can ... (read in full...)
One year spent together and I don't know what to get him.
Q. Hello. It's me and my boyfriend's one year anniversary soon and I want to get him something really special. The only problem is I don't know what. I'm already making him a scrapbook but I want to buy him something meaningful as well, although I ...
A. 4 March 2010: Give him something which you both treasure and share.
Something that is in your prized possession.It may not be expensive but have a lot of values.... (read in full...)
Love is a one way street!
Q. My husband and I have been married for 7 1/2 years and we no longer have sex. The last time was in 2006. He says he loves me but doesn't want to be intimate at all. We've both gained about 40 lbs each over the last 6 years and he says we're too fat ...
A. 4 March 2010: With due respect to DoubleM, that's your perception.
In every actions , there is a reaction. You cannot isolate a problem and say it is the man's problem.She is also a part of the problem in the marriage.It needs two to tango.
Before we thi... (read in full...)
I've devastated my fiance by leaving him, it's hurting me too
Q. Ok I am in some need of help here, and any advice is greatly appreciated.. I posted on here recently about how I had cancelled my wedding to my fiance who I have been with for 3 years and that I was considering leaving him because I feel we just wan...
A. 4 March 2010: Don't judge yourself too harshly and do forgive yourself too. To err is only human.It is destiny that you cannot be together.
Try to learn from the mistakes, but do not blame yourself for the breakup.
Do things that would help you in relieving... (read in full...)
Concern over wife's old love letters...
Q. My Wife and I have been together for 6 years and have a good relationship with 2 wonderful children. About 4 years ago I found a picture of a naked man in her drawer and when I asked her about it, she said it was just an old friend and that nothing ...
A. 4 March 2010: Some women cannot disassociate themselves from the past and need to keep somethings back for remembrance, especially those unforgettable events.
It is just for memory , a remembrance of their past when they were young.
Her deleting her tex... (read in full...)
Is he just being a nice mate? I'm too scared of being rejected to ask him directly about it!
Q. ok so...first things first...I suck at relationships of anysort.. I'm useless at knowing whether people like or 'like' or are teasing :p *sigh* So here goes, there's a guy on my course who is a super friend.. But I've started to like him more th...
A. 4 March 2010: Go with the flow and sooner or later , you will know the answer.Just enjoy those moments of togetherness and everything will fall into place when it is ready.... (read in full...)
Love is a one way street!
Q. My husband and I have been married for 7 1/2 years and we no longer have sex. The last time was in 2006. He says he loves me but doesn't want to be intimate at all. We've both gained about 40 lbs each over the last 6 years and he says we're too fat ...
A. 4 March 2010: God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Ta... (read in full...)
Is it considered cheating if you sleep with a man but don't have sex?
Q. if a married woman just sleeps with a guy without having sex is that considered cheating??...
A. 4 March 2010: No right thinking married woman would allow a man to share the bed with her.
Protocol dictates that the man should sleep on the couch or floor and not in the same room , let alone the same bed.
If you are on the same bed or in the same room , ... (read in full...)
Should I give them the money despite working so hard to save it to make myself more financially stable?
Q. Hi I'm facing a dilemma here. After leaving an abusive relationship of five years (which also ruined me financially; also during this time the situation was so unstable I was moving from job to job, state to state and just handing over my paychecks) ...
A. 27 February 2010: It is just like the groundnut who forgets his husk which protected the nut when he was young. I would like to rephrase that. There is a Malay idiom which says," The groundnut forgets it's skin." When they were small, the skin(parents) protec... (read in full...)
Should I give them the money despite working so hard to save it to make myself more financially stable?
Q. Hi I'm facing a dilemma here. After leaving an abusive relationship of five years (which also ruined me financially; also during this time the situation was so unstable I was moving from job to job, state to state and just handing over my paychecks) ...
A. 26 February 2010: You are caught between the devil and the deep blue sea.
If you don't lend, you will have to move out from your parents and they may disown you or not want to have anything to do with you anymore.
You will also be labeled as ungrateful and s... (read in full...)
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