I could care less for my biological Mom...is this wrong?
Q. Im 19 years and about to graduate high school. My life couldn't be better, even though it's not perfect. I was adopted by my grandparents when I was a baby, after my biological mother had me at the age of 16 but couldn't take care of me. My ...
A. 16 March 2010: marriedlady,
Thank you for your beautiful post and for pointing out my errors.
If anyone felt offended ,outraged or upset,it was unintentional and my regrets and apologies to you all.... (read in full...)
I could care less for my biological Mom...is this wrong?
Q. Im 19 years and about to graduate high school. My life couldn't be better, even though it's not perfect. I was adopted by my grandparents when I was a baby, after my biological mother had me at the age of 16 but couldn't take care of me. My ...
A. 16 March 2010: I get the feeling that it is wrong to tell people like OP to have more love, more compassion's, more understandings and more kindness for their moms who have failed or unable to carry out their duties as a mother.
If I am wrong ,I stand to be co... (read in full...)
I could care less for my biological Mom...is this wrong?
Q. Im 19 years and about to graduate high school. My life couldn't be better, even though it's not perfect. I was adopted by my grandparents when I was a baby, after my biological mother had me at the age of 16 but couldn't take care of me. My ...
A. 15 March 2010: Some mothers are bad mothers in a sense because they come from a culture which followed their traditions.
They treat their daughters badly and they learned it from their mothers and grandmothers.
Off course, there are some mothers who neve... (read in full...)
I could care less for my biological Mom...is this wrong?
Q. Im 19 years and about to graduate high school. My life couldn't be better, even though it's not perfect. I was adopted by my grandparents when I was a baby, after my biological mother had me at the age of 16 but couldn't take care of me. My ...
A. 15 March 2010: Vintage64
What makes a good mother ?
"Good mothering is often measured by the method of parenting rather than the results. Therefore, the definition of ‘good mother’ has come to mean different things to different people."
Who wants to be... (read in full...)
I could care less for my biological Mom...is this wrong?
Q. Im 19 years and about to graduate high school. My life couldn't be better, even though it's not perfect. I was adopted by my grandparents when I was a baby, after my biological mother had me at the age of 16 but couldn't take care of me. My ...
A. 15 March 2010: It is a funny thing, when you do not have love for a person , you will see that person in a negative light .
Whatever that person does, it will come out negatively in your mind.
You may even see her as a devilish person .
Love bears all ... (read in full...)
I could care less for my biological Mom...is this wrong?
Q. Im 19 years and about to graduate high school. My life couldn't be better, even though it's not perfect. I was adopted by my grandparents when I was a baby, after my biological mother had me at the age of 16 but couldn't take care of me. My ...
A. 14 March 2010: It is very unfortunate that you were not brought up in a normal loving family environment by your parents but by your grandparents who have fulfilled those roles marvelously and raised you up to be what you are today.
There are quite a number o... (read in full...)
She prioritises her friends over me!
Q. Ok me and my girlfriend have been dating for 7 1/2 months now. The first couple months were great and everything was perfect we spent all the time together that we needed we did tons of stuff together and we were very serious about each other. ...
A. 14 March 2010: That was some excitement, huh! Sometimes, people can go astray after some time.They need to be shooed back to the right path. Well done!... (read in full...)
I could care less for my biological Mom...is this wrong?
Q. Im 19 years and about to graduate high school. My life couldn't be better, even though it's not perfect. I was adopted by my grandparents when I was a baby, after my biological mother had me at the age of 16 but couldn't take care of me. My ...
A. 14 March 2010: I apologize if I have made you out to be bad. I have given you another view from another angle.
Things are not what they seemed to be to your young mind. Sometimes, what you see is not what you get.
Your mother's problem is your grandparent... (read in full...)
Will the distance be too much?
Q. I'm 30 year old man she's 19 year old woman. I have 2 kids (girls) 8 and 6 years old. We started to be serious right away 3 months ago. She's going to university in 6 months. Now she lives only 1 1/2 hours away but then she will be 6 hours away! She ...
A. 13 March 2010: True love knows no barriers. Age is just a figure because what counts is maturity , understandings and most important of all love.
I wish you all the best.... (read in full...)
I bit him a little too hard and now he's really angry with me and I don't know how to sort this?
Q. I've done something silly. Last night, I was absolutely hammered, and was spending the night with my boyfriend, and we were having sex and I bit him a bit too hard, all in the heat of the moment, and I honestly misjudged it... so he roughly pushed ...
A. 13 March 2010: You have to act normal and try to joke and make him laughs.
Your storming off is certainly a cause of his anger. He may give you the silent treatment because the cat got his tongue.
... (read in full...)
He literally erased me from his life...
Q. Hi aunts. So I've been here before because I'm a 15 year old guy and I confessed to my best Guy friend that I was bisexual. Not only that; I was also confessed to him that I was attracted to him for a long amount of time.. and made a stupid move by ...
A. 13 March 2010: Learn from your mistakes and move on .You cannot control others and tell them what to do.
Sometimes, they have stereo type thinking's and do not understand about your sexuality . They are bias and prejudiced and there is nothing you can do for h... (read in full...)
Could this small talk have been an indication of interest?
Q. I have often wondered if you are having your items totalled up by a cashier and she makes small talk about a couple items you have that are expensive for example I was buying a couple frozen diners and this young lady I'd say 20 mentions that they ...
A. 13 March 2010: Oops! They have a very boring job and only looking for someone to chat. Maybe, you do look appealing and friendly and they are just being friendly.... (read in full...)
I bit him a little too hard and now he's really angry with me and I don't know how to sort this?
Q. I've done something silly. Last night, I was absolutely hammered, and was spending the night with my boyfriend, and we were having sex and I bit him a bit too hard, all in the heat of the moment, and I honestly misjudged it... so he roughly pushed ...
A. 13 March 2010: You have apologized to him and the ball is at his feet. He may sulk for a few days and when he is rational again , he will come around.
Treat him nice and pamper him .This will be like a balm for his injured ego.... (read in full...)
Will the distance be too much?
Q. I'm 30 year old man she's 19 year old woman. I have 2 kids (girls) 8 and 6 years old. We started to be serious right away 3 months ago. She's going to university in 6 months. Now she lives only 1 1/2 hours away but then she will be 6 hours away! She ...
A. 13 March 2010: It's a tough call. She is leaving for the U and it means that you are only an option to her.
It is a different world and it may change her outlook.
If you are fated to be together, your path will meet again.
Time and distance can be a da... (read in full...)
Does he fancy me or is he a player?
Q. I used to really like this guy, lets call him A. We weren't exactly close at the time and he somehow heard that I really liked him and things started to become awkward. (I'm at school, so you know how it is, not even speaking for a whole hours ...
A. 13 March 2010: He is like fishing in the sea and waiting to see which fish will bite his bait. He likes and enjoys flirting and if he is not into any relationships yet, we cannot say that he is a player.
He could be shy or do not have the courage to response... (read in full...)
She prioritises her friends over me!
Q. Ok me and my girlfriend have been dating for 7 1/2 months now. The first couple months were great and everything was perfect we spent all the time together that we needed we did tons of stuff together and we were very serious about each other. ...
A. 13 March 2010: Maybe, it has become too routine, stale, predictable and uninteresting . You need to make your hangouts more interesting and exciting ,that she would want to hang out more with you than her friends.... (read in full...)
Her text wasn't meant for me. Who was she texting?
Q. My girlfriend says she always goes to bed around 9pm because she works all week and is always tired by then. She never answers any texts off me after that time and always waits till morning to reply. We were supposed to be spending the day...
A. 13 March 2010: I don't know about your country but in mine , sometimes those text will only be received by the next day or a few hours after they are send and not immediately. This could be a technical hitch in the telco server.
Anyway, you should just let it p... (read in full...)
Problems with premature ejaculation...
Q. Don't laugh at me. I suffer from premature ejaculation. I'm a virgin, and never had a gf. Eventually, I'm going to get one... But I'm scared.... first of all, I'm a virgin.. and two, I can't last more than a few minutes when I masturbate. The ...
A. 13 March 2010: The way to make a woman satisfied is to make her orgasm first. You can find those tips by Googling it online.
Premature ejaculations can be cured.Go and see your doctor.... (read in full...)
He's hurt me so much and I don't even think he realises it!
Q. Hi, I've been with my partner for 4 and a half years now, engaged for 2 years. We are both managers in the hospitality and leisure industry, so work consumes all of our lives, 24/7. We actually live above the place we work, so it literally is ful...
A. 13 March 2010: We always hurt the one's we loved the most.With others , we are more guarded and careful .
Men and women look at the same issues with different perceptions.What he thinks is just a simple and clear cut case ,can be complex and complicated case to ... (read in full...)
He's ignoring me a bit so should I just stop trying to communicate with this guy?
Q. There's a guy in the USAF who have been friend of mine for 3 years now. We have always been keeping in touch since we met in person. He had said he enjoys our friendship and communications and that it's good when he hears from me. Well, he's in ...
A. 13 March 2010: It seems like yours is a one way street . If there is no corresponding push from the other side,it means that he is not anymore interested to continue with you .
It would be better to be pursued than to pursue him. If he is not interest... (read in full...)
Should I forgive him like a good Christian for cheating on me, or tell him to hit the road?
Q. I just got a boyfriend not even a month ago. He was sweet, respectful, nice, and never pushed me on anything. It was the night of my 19th birthday when I got a text message from my boyfriend's ex. She claims that I should be careful and that my ...
A. 13 March 2010: Can you go on with your life without missing or thinking of him?
If you can , then you can forgive him and tell him to hit the road.
If you can't,then you will have to forgive and pardon his sin.Wipe your slate clean and give him another chan... (read in full...)
How do I show this girl, that I want a second chance?
Q. ok so i decided to set up an account and see if i could get some advice because i really dont know what to do. i was with my girlfriend for nearly 3 years and we had some really really great times.we broke up 7 weeks ago. the ting was i was v...
A. 13 March 2010: If you think she is worth a second shot, you should go all out for it .Fight for her with your soul ,spirit and body. Take everything that is thrown into your path.
You need to prove to her that you have changed and make sure that you don't fa... (read in full...)
My cousin touches me! Help!
Q. Ok, my older cousin used to touch me all the time. I was 10 years old and he was 13. I didn't know what masterbating was and why he did it, but he used to be my best friend when i was 10. So we used to sit together in the same chair because it was a ...
A. 13 March 2010: It is wrong to touch you , grope, caress or fondle your below. Next time he does it , give him a hard kick or a tight slap.
That should end further rubbing or accidental touching.... (read in full...)
Should I forgive her and get over it this..or am I upset for a good reason here?
Q. I've only known my best friend for nearly 2 years, but we instantly had an amazing connection and got on so well. My trouble is, for my bday my friend blew me off and didnt get me so much as a card. Her bday is comming around and deep down I want...
A. 13 March 2010: You should forgive her and give her the benefits of doubt. It could be some unintentional human errors.
Whatever the reasons ,you should not hold it against her as you are her best friend.
Does she treat you in the same way ?... (read in full...)
I'm frustrated because during sex, he lasts a few minutes...is this normal?
Q. my boyfriend can hardly ever last long during sex and its getting really frustrating! today he finished in literally less than 2 minutes and we'd hardly gotten into it. is this like a medical problem or normal? i thought he would be able to control ...
A. 13 March 2010: He is inexperience or it could also be his back pain which makes him uncomfortable in any prolong sex play.... (read in full...)
Are there any men who don't only want sex?
Q. Are there any men that don't only want sex? My boyfriend told me that every guy on the campus(at our college) is driven mainly by sex. Honestly, it's a little disgusting to me...And I guess I'm just losing a little bit of faith in "good" guys if ...
A. 13 March 2010: That is a generalized and stereotype statement.Not all guys are driven by sex alone.
Sex maybe in their minds but some could be looking for love, friendship or companionship.... (read in full...)
I want to stay a virgin until marriage but what's the use!
Q. I would really like to stay a virgin until I'm married but it doesn't seem like there are any virgin girls left so whats the point? The whole chastity thing really doesn't work unless both people are in on it. It's all just really irritating 22 ...
A. 13 March 2010: There are pro's and con's of being a virgin.
On the plus side, girls may want to sleep with you because you are not a player and there is no risk of STD's or the girl's inexperience.
That you are a moral and religious person who can overcome... (read in full...)
I could care less for my biological Mom...is this wrong?
Q. Im 19 years and about to graduate high school. My life couldn't be better, even though it's not perfect. I was adopted by my grandparents when I was a baby, after my biological mother had me at the age of 16 but couldn't take care of me. My ...
A. 13 March 2010: You cannot change the fact that she is your biological mother even if you don't want to admit it.
Your mother may not measure up to your standards as compared to your grandparents or perfect in your eyes.
She may not be a good daughter to her ... (read in full...)
I could care less for my biological Mom...is this wrong?
Q. Im 19 years and about to graduate high school. My life couldn't be better, even though it's not perfect. I was adopted by my grandparents when I was a baby, after my biological mother had me at the age of 16 but couldn't take care of me. My ...
A. 13 March 2010: You cannot change the fact that she is your biological mother even if you don't want to admit it.
Your mother may not measure up to your standards as compared to your grandparents or perfect in your eyes..
She may not have given you the lo... (read in full...)
I could care less for my biological Mom...is this wrong?
Q. Im 19 years and about to graduate high school. My life couldn't be better, even though it's not perfect. I was adopted by my grandparents when I was a baby, after my biological mother had me at the age of 16 but couldn't take care of me. My ...
A. 13 March 2010: You cannot change the fact that she is your biological mother even if you don't want to admit it.
Your mother may not measure up to your standards as compared to your grandparents or perfect in your eyes..
She may not have given you the lo... (read in full...)
I hate being gay..help!
Q. I'm gay and hate it.i just cant handle it. It makes me desperate.in my town everyone hates gays . It is complicated cause i also love girls and not satisfied of being gay. If someone know it my life will be miserable and i hate being gay cause my ...
A. 13 March 2010: Try to focus on God. He is the one who can change your attitude and make you straight. Pray to Him and be patient.You cannot change over night and it will take time.
Don't reaffirm that you are gay and try to change your lifestyle. Try not to m... (read in full...)
What does this look mean?
Q. Hey, could you help me?? Well I like this guy and today I saw him and said hi, he looked at me like right in the eye before remembering to say hi back and I smiled and so did he. About 10 minutes later I saw him walking down the stairs in our bu...
A. 13 March 2010: He was looking for validation . He wanted to know if you can accept him as a friend or a companion.... (read in full...)
Should I end this 8 month marriage?
Q. Hi, I think its time to end our marriage. I have been married for about 8 months now and everything seems to be falling apart and my love for my husband diminishing. I feel like he is a chronic liar and does not treat me the way I want. Im now d...
A. 13 March 2010: You should go for marriage counselling first and try to find a middle ground or compromise.
Give your best and try to make it work and if you are still unhappy and feel that you are incompatible or a torture to stay married, then you need to ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him I want foreplay without making it sound like I am saying he does not know how to please a woman?
Q. My current BF is my first serious relationship. I was a virgin before I met him and he wasn't. His experience though consisted of two short term GF's (2-3 months each) and two one night stands. Even though I didn't enter this relationship wit...
A. 13 March 2010: A guy would like to please his woman but every woman is different and what works for one may not work on another.
You would have to show him the road map and lead him all the way to those interesting spots ,crevices, caves and mountains and wher... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend loves my sister!
Q. *OP's own title* i have been with my partner for a year now, its my first serious relationship, and im his first love. we get on great, have a fun together, always cuddling and kissing, however there is one problem, i dont know if its just me, but ...
A. 13 March 2010: Tell him that you need to take a time out . Do not think about this problem but to go out with your friends and enjoy life.
When your head has cleared , you can decide if you want to stay or move on.... (read in full...)
Do I wait for him to break up with me or..should I dump him first?
Q. I'm not sure what to do about my boyfriend and I'm really stuck! First off, I'm 15 weeks pregnant and in a strange relationship with my boyfriend. He works out of town for periods of time. He's been gone since the middle of Jan. In that time...
A. 13 March 2010: I am sorry you are going through such a rough patch in your life.The storm will soon blow over but right now , you have got to hang on and batten down the hatch.
No man worth his salt would ditch his baby and g/f even though he has no say in it.He... (read in full...)
Why am I jealous of this negative attention, my best friend gets from the guys??
Q. One of my best friends is really short and pretty. I view myself as just an average (but my friends are helping me get over my self-esteem issues). She has mostly guy friends and that makes me sort of jealous because they're also always with her. ...
A. 13 March 2010: Learn to love yourself more and stop comparing with others. Build up your confidence and self esteem.
Focus on what is, and not what could be and stop worrying about hypothetical situations.
Goggle for more tips to overcome jealousy.... (read in full...)
Should I terminate my pregnancy for my boyfriend?
Q. im just 3 weeks pregnant and its the one thing i want most in the world. im 33 and was beginning to fear it would be too late for me. my partner wants me to terminate, weve discussed children and ive always been under the impression it would happen, ...
A. 13 March 2010: You may disagree but to insult and belittle others is beyond reproach.
Don't judge others, lest you will be judged with the same high standards you judged others.
... (read in full...)
Can a girl's physical imperfections drive guys away?
Q. This is something that bothers me a lot and makes me self-conscious. The thing is, I have an uneven nose. It's different on both sides (one side being better than the other), and from the front you can see that it's asymmetrical; one side of the ...
A. 12 March 2010: If people want to judge you, then your whole body maybe under the microscope ,not only your nose.
I am sure there are many parts of your body which are imperfect.Even the way you dressed or the way you walked cannot escape their eyes.
You can... (read in full...)
How can I get my boyfriend to show affection without me asking him to?
Q. I always have to ask my boyfriend for hugs and kisses cuz he won't do it on his own, and it gets anoying, any advice?...
A. 12 March 2010: If you want something from a man , you must tell him what you want in simple terms.
Tell him that he should initiate some hugs and kisses and not let you initiate it all the time.
It is no fun when it is one sided. He should get your message... (read in full...)
Completely Lost...
Q. 5 1/2 years ago, I met a woman. At the time I was married for 10 years, with two children. I thought I had a happy marriage, but since then, I'm not sure. My new relationship started off harmless, she was married too. As time went on, things b...
A. 12 March 2010: When your life is clouded by a fog , it is difficult to see where you are going.
I would suggest that you go back to God and seek His help to guide you through this fog in your life.
May God grant you His grace and strength to lead you to the ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend forced me to swallow.... what to do?
Q. I love my boyfriend very much; however, he did something very mean last night. He knows I do not swallow, I HATE it! Makes me want to gag, not really the taste, but the feel alone. Anyhow, I let him do other stuff to me, facials, pearl n...
A. 12 March 2010: It could be a moment of lunacy and he went overboard. You may want to give him another chance and if he does it again , it means that he does not respect you nor think highly of you .He treats you like a sex toy and not as his g/f.... (read in full...)
What does his hug mean?
Q. I went on a date with a guy i work with and i feel like i am gettin mixed signals bc we kissed during the movie and afterwards we talked for an hour and he gave me a hug and then he texted me afterwards asking me if i was able to come to his friends ...
A. 12 March 2010: You kissed and he gave you a hug.It could be more of a friendly gesture and we can't say for sure what was his intentions.
I think it would be embarrassing for him to explain his actions or motives . I think you should just let it pass.
If h... (read in full...)
Losing my sex drive at 52! Help
Q. i am a 52 year old male ,i am loosing my sex drive fast what can i do...
A. 12 March 2010: Exercise, sleep well and eat healthy food. They will help you to recharge your batteries.... (read in full...)
He is letting his mother control his life, and I don't know what to do. can anyone offer any advice?
Q. My bf and I have issues going on. we are together for 3 yrs now. the problem i have with him is he cannot sleep by me at all. He owns a Vehicle so his excuse is he has to take his brother (age 17) to school. but when school give holidays he don't ...
A. 12 March 2010: He is like a child and you can only succeed with this type of man if you can mother him ,pamper him and put up with his unreasonable demands until he grows up.
You would also have to deal with his possessive mother. His mother will come first an... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong here or is this due to his insecurities?
Q. My boyfriend is very insecure.. we are fighting at the moment because i went to my brothers place for dinner and he said to me "you were probably out with some guy having a quicky" i thought this was disrespectful and said to him i dont want to a...
A. 12 March 2010: You cannot change a man. He is what he is , take it or leave it.
You can try your best and give your best, but all your best will never be enough.
If you like it, you take it home, if you don't like it , you don't buy it.
You are like a ... (read in full...)
Did I scare him? A long story very short.
Q. I met a man a few weeks ago and we really hit it off. It started with him having a crush on me, when I was into someone else, but after bumping into him one night and him giving me his phone number I began to like him too. He was really attentive, ...
A. 12 March 2010: Why not you resend that same message again to him or call him. He could have missed it by chance or did not receive it.
This should confirm that he got your message. Sometimes, messages don't arrive or they were overlooked.... (read in full...)
Will adding him as a friend on facebook make me seem desperate?
Q. well i have a crush on dis guy and he is there on facebook so you think should i add him?i hope this wont make him feel that i am desperate to talk to him?...
A. 12 March 2010: Do you know him? Just send him a message and another request again.Or you can send an email to him in FB.
If he still does not accept you ,you can forget him because he is the kind that does not accept anyone as friends in FB.
There are som... (read in full...)
Should I terminate my pregnancy for my boyfriend?
Q. im just 3 weeks pregnant and its the one thing i want most in the world. im 33 and was beginning to fear it would be too late for me. my partner wants me to terminate, weve discussed children and ive always been under the impression it would happen, ...
A. 11 March 2010: Glad to hear your wise decision. When the baby comes out, he will change his opinion.
Que! Sera! Sera! What ever will be ,will be !
Children are a blessings from God.... (read in full...)
It feels like she does not want a future with me but she cant seem to let me go either
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 years. i live in my flat and she lives with her parents. For the first year and half most of her friends knew about us (but not her parents)and things were great as I felt really close to my girlfreind...
A. 11 March 2010: I do not understand why you have to placed so much importance about letting the whole world knows that you are with her.She has her reasons. Probably to safeguard her reputation.
Your insistence that she tells the whole wide world is against ... (read in full...)
He wont forgive me after our fight, how can I get over this?
Q. I had 2 arguments with my boyfriend in a row and on a very simple reason. It was his fault that he couldnt return my phone calls since he was with his friends and I scolded him the following day. He kept silent saying nothing and that means he is ...
A. 11 March 2010: Call him out and tell him it is important and talk over dinner, kiss and make up.Everything will be back on track.
... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong here or is this due to his insecurities?
Q. My boyfriend is very insecure.. we are fighting at the moment because i went to my brothers place for dinner and he said to me "you were probably out with some guy having a quicky" i thought this was disrespectful and said to him i dont want to a...
A. 11 March 2010: He is a sauerkraut. WOW! You must be his guardian angel! You are right. He is very insecure, irrational and immature.
He is a challenge to you ,a rough diamond and you want to mould and polish him into a fine and sparkling diamond.
Good lu... (read in full...)
Should I terminate my pregnancy for my boyfriend?
Q. im just 3 weeks pregnant and its the one thing i want most in the world. im 33 and was beginning to fear it would be too late for me. my partner wants me to terminate, weve discussed children and ive always been under the impression it would happen, ...
A. 11 March 2010: Children are the center of your universe. Without them life has got no purpose and meaning.
If without children ,my life would be nothing .
How can a woman find fulfillment and contentment when she was created to bear children and this right i... (read in full...)
Can a girl's physical imperfections drive guys away?
Q. This is something that bothers me a lot and makes me self-conscious. The thing is, I have an uneven nose. It's different on both sides (one side being better than the other), and from the front you can see that it's asymmetrical; one side of the ...
A. 11 March 2010: Most guys eyes will be on your chest and they would seldom notice your nose imperfection, unless it is very pronounced. You yourself even did not notice it until recently .
Those who cares about you ,would not matter and those who matter ,you don... (read in full...)
Will adding him as a friend on facebook make me seem desperate?
Q. well i have a crush on dis guy and he is there on facebook so you think should i add him?i hope this wont make him feel that i am desperate to talk to him?...
A. 11 March 2010: Does he knows that you have a crush on him ?
Even if he does, it does not matter. Adding him in your FB is just a normal occurrence. It does not mean that you are desperate. Go on and add him .... (read in full...)
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