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41-50,
*azelcorona
writes:My boyfriend and I dated (2 years), broke up and got back together (last 4 years). In the time we broke up, he became friends with a gay man (no, my boyfriend is not gay or bi). When my boyfriend and I got back together, I became very good friends with the friend. (no, no chance of him changing)After several years of us all being friends, the friend told me some things that my boyfriend supposedly said - things that would end our relationship, if true - about leaving and such (none of the comments make since sense because boyfriend knows that the friend and I talk and also because boyfriend told my mom that he bought an engagement ring). My boyfriend denied the comments, the friend was upset that the boyfriend was denying it and there was a huge blow out and boyfriend and I didn't talk to the friend for a couple of weeks. Well now boyfriend and friend are talking, hanging out- friends again. (the friend did not reply to 1 email i sent asking how he was. no calls/texts/emails/facebook messages to me)The friend told boyfriend that he (the friend) never told me 1/2 of those things. I'm pissed at the friend for all of the lying. I'm more pissed at boyfriend because he says that the friend didn't break us up, so it's in the past and he doesn't see it as any big deal. I think this is a very big deal. Need unbiased opinions out there - tried to write it without too much detail but also without bias.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (5 March 2010):
 I think you should just let it go and not dig up the dirt again . Let it be buried and move on . It will not do anyone any good by bringing it up again.
Your b/f have already decided and you should respect his decisions.
You need to change your perceptions and you will find peace and tranquility in your life.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (5 March 2010):
 Don't trust the friend, don't trust the friend, he isnt your friend, don't trust him.
I'm not sure how to best deal with this, if you feel the boyfriend is a keeper, tell him you are fine with him retaining his friendship with this man who tried to break you up, but that you can't.
Insinuate you think it might be because the friend wants him for himeself, and if he can't have him, nobody can, it might make your boyfriend uncomfortable enough to pull back from the friendship himself.
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