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writes:I have fallen in love with a wonderful man after 4 months of dating...I get the feeling that he has to. I want to tell him, but im scared that after just 4 months, that might be to much for him to hear just yet; than it would scare him off, and he might just back off. I dont want that, but i sense we both feel the same way about each other...should i tell him, or wait to see if he tells me first? We have never used the L word in our relationship, and im scared as all hell to let him know how i truely feel. Reply to this Question
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (4 March 2010):
 The fact that you are still legally married is a huge factor. When are you divorcing?
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (4 March 2010):
 To tell or not to tell?
If you are not absolutely sure and have fear, then you are not ready to tell yet.
If you are wearing your heart on your sleeve ,only a blind man cannot see the love in your heart.
But even a blind man can feel whats inside your heart.
If love is in the air, there is no need to announce it.
Wait for him to pop that question . His actions would speak louder than words.
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reader, cherimarie +, writes (4 March 2010):
cherimarie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionin response to some of my questions; I thank you all...its made me do some thinking, now i think i might no the answer to what i was asking. I am married, if you ask me ive been single since we split...but legally, unfortunitely i am, and it bothers my boyfriend that im not. That probably has a great deal of why he might be confused about us. What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2010): If this man is into you as much as you are into him it will be evident if he loves you or not. Men know what they want and they go for it. If you tell him you love him and he doesn't feel the same way you can stop wasting your time. It's tough to do it that way but it's also tough to be wondering all the time and also investing time in a relationship that may not be going anywhere.
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reader, 80sfashionista. +, writes (3 March 2010):
 if you feel like he does too then you should, but to be on the safe side wait just a bit ... tell him YOU FEEL it in your heart that its time :)
good luckkk!
xoxo, kitty
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reader, Trey69 +, writes (3 March 2010):
Woman just go for it :0) If you sense he loves you and yoo both probably told each other that you Both Care for each other I don't see nothing wrong with letting him know.He's probably thinking the same thing.I believe he is mature enough to accept how your feeling.And sone men I know that are in 40's will let you know if they don't want a commuted relationship.If he is being commited to you and doing certain things giving you signs, go for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2010): I agree with Eyes,
What's the rush, just relax and enjoy all the joys of a new relationship.
The answer to the question when should i tell him I love him, is when the time feels right you will know when that is.
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (3 March 2010):
 Rather than saying it and risk putting him off, why don't you just step your relationship up a notch by doing nice things for him to show how much you appreciate him. Sounds cliche but actions speak louder than words and a romantic meal or a weekend away that you can both enjoy will enhance the loving feeling. Even offering help with chores or letting him help you will reinforce his belief that your super happy to have him in your life.
You don't have to say it so why give yourself the added pressure. Show it in small ways and it's impact will be lasting!!
xxx Aunty Em xxx
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (3 March 2010):
What's the rush? If you aren't ready, and it sounds like your aren't if you are asking this question, then why not wait untl you are more comfortable? 4 months is a drop in the bucket so just relax and enjoy your new relationship.
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reader, klo17 +, writes (3 March 2010):
well dats the only way that he is going to know how you really feel....you have to tell him..and if he backs away then you know it wasnt meant to be and move on..true love takes time
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reader, Markfurn  +, writes (3 March 2010):
Honestly, I would say why not?
Look if this guy does not feel the same way about you, then you need to get out. There is nothing worse than loving someone and they do not love you the same way back.
Look love is a strong word and often people use it too losey, but if you do truly love this guy and he has any feelings for you. Tell him and see where it goes. Look if he backs off and runs away. Then you would have been wasting your time anyway.
That is just my opinion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2010): Carnt you show him how u feel in other ways if your worried about it that much
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