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*ollydaydream
writes:I was wondering if you could help. I have been seeing my other half for 5 months, but it is recently i have noticed he dosent kiss me the same anymore. Its like he always pulls away first and does not use tongues anymore and there is no passion. I try and start things moving but he resists. what is the problem? He used to be so passionate. Reply to this Question
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reader, dollydaydream +, writes (7 March 2010):
dollydaydream is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSulking is an interesting thought, but my gut tells me that he is detached.
I have on a few occasions now tried romantic set ups, he does interact but it seems contrived even with his smiles, and he still pulls away. I did ask but stil he denies anything.
I have offered him out of the relationship and he took it too well, i took him back the next morning as i was scared i was wrong. My confidence is in pieces, i cant let go while he denies that he loves me less.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (6 March 2010):
 Don't worry about Q, he's allergic to me and my questions..
Those were random questions I asked, but thank you very much for taking the time to consider them. We've covered most things that could be bothering him, and you say it's none of these.
Not even jealous anymore. Maybe he got fed up with being jealous and now is sulking to punish you. Really and truely I can't think what it could be, but I believe you and don't think your imagining things. A woman knows her man, and she knows in her gut when things are going wrong.
Can you take him out for a romantic meal somewhere, try kissing him then, flirt and make sure he knows romance is on your mind. If he pulls away, then you'll know something is definitely wrong, and you'll have clear evidence, something he can neither deny or push aside...
We can't read his mind unfortunately, so if he pushes you away again, then you need to ask him what is going on.
At the back of my mind is only one other possible suggestion.... maybe another woman perhaps... Try to get him in a romantic mood, or try to get him in the mood to talk.
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reader, dollydaydream +, writes (6 March 2010):
dollydaydream is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou for your replies.
Yes we fight sometimes but there is not a particular fight. The strange thing is that he is the one to start the fights over his jealousys but lately he hasn't bothered with that either.
He isn't under much stress, well no more than ever before anyway. There is nothing new at the moment such as sports. There is no std's. He dosen't masterbate, in other words there is nothing new that would be taking something from us.
I dont have bad breath either on the odd occasion i've had garlic he wil say so.
i don't quite understand q1605 what you mean, i don't ask him lots of questions.
I did talk to him about it but he just got defensive and said he couldnt tell anything has changed but it has, he barely touches me when we kiss now either.
He says he loves me the same as always then brushed it under the carpet. I'm so confused.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2010): Do you have a throat infection or even, mild bad breath? You may not realise it but it may be there.
Get your close friend to tell you.
If its not physical, just ignore him for a couple of days, weeks. NOt like pointedly ignore but leave him alone and do your own thing, happily without resentment.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (6 March 2010):
 It has to do with man's psychology. They will go all out at first and then they will slack because they cannot maintain that pace.
While the girl will be slow at first and later will want more of it.Her expectations are high and when she gets less, she begins to wonder why ?
There is nothing wrong with them. It is just the way they are.
You have become too familiar and it has become a chore.Bring on a new girl and the whole cycle begins again.
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reader, veronika  +, writes (6 March 2010):
 Perhaps he feels the spark has just gone? Usually couples fall into a routine where the passion dies down, but it's often more after the two year mark - not 5 months. The realist in me says he's not as interested in you as he once was, but I would actually suggest talking to him about it and ask to have a talk. Never underestimate communication! :)
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reader, Miamine +, writes (6 March 2010):
Dolly, there isn't enough information here to even make a guess.. did you have a fight, is he under stress, is he sick, is it football season, has any of you had a sexual disease, has he got children, dose he argue with his mother, dose he have problems with money, dose he look at porn, dose he masturbate, did you tell him he can't kiss properly?
More information is needed to answer this question properly
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