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writes:Is my boyfriend gay? He doesn't like to really do anything with me he rather hang out with the guys. We have sex maybe once a week because most of the time when he comes he tired and goes to sleep. I asked him once and he got very defensive saying if I think that we should break up. He doesn't hate being around guys because my best friend is gay and he has been with me to visit him. I dont no what to think. He is very secretive he stays on the internet alot and always turn his ringer off when he comes over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2010): It's possible he could be cheating with one or more girls behind your back. He turns the ringer off when around you, goes on the internet alot, hangs out with the guys alot, comes home tired or exhausted, not wanting sex or too happy to see you, and gets offended when you ask him if it's because he's gay...he's probably cheating...with a girl, most likely, because that's how it usually goes. Try to find some proof, without getting caught looking for it, and when you find it show it to him, and give him an ultimatum. It might be something else, like being gay, but I suspect cheating, either way. Good luck.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (6 March 2010):
 He could be unsure of his sexuality .He maybe gravitating towards being a gay or he could soon to be a closet gay.
He is immature and childish , preferring to hang out with his buddies who could be singles.
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reader, CHP  +, writes (6 March 2010):
I may be young of age but hopefully you will respect my opinion.
I dont believe your boyfriend is gay at all.
Infact i believe that he may like being around his mates more than you.
I dont mean to sound negative but i know a lot of guys who would rather spend their spare time with their friends instead of their girlfriends.
Hopefully you could have a talk with him and resolve the problem (Dont turn this into a row!)
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (6 March 2010):
 He's suspicious and GIRLISH.
Loves hanging out with your gay friend?
Hangs out witht he guys all the time?
Ringer off?
He's either cheating or He's gay. Or Bi.
He Doesnt sound like a keeper to me. DUMP.
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reader, justinfitzpatrick +, writes (6 March 2010):
Hmm...it could be that he just isn't that into you. But if you asked him if he was gay and you are SURE that he got defensive about it, that would seem to raise a red flag.
In any case, what does it matter? If you have a particular problem with the relationship, bring it up with him (more sex, more activities, etc.). If he's willing to work with you, then your problem is solved. If he isn't willing to make changes, then you're screwed regardless of whether he's gay or not.
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reader, smitheroon +, writes (6 March 2010):
 From what you're saying, it doesn't sound like he's gay. Is he maybe not the greatest boyfriend? Yeah, but I don't think (from what you've said) that he's gay. You certainly don't sound happy so maybe you should consider that and go from there.
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