He's a control freak, a fault finder and has anger issues... Should I stay in the marriage for the sake of my son?
Q. I've been married for almost 5 years now. We rushed into things and got married right away. I've regretted it almost every day since. He's a control freak, a fault finder, and has some anger issues (but he doesn't hit me). He's never happy. Ever. I ...
A. 10 March 2010:
It is a very difficult decision for those couples who find themselves in this dilemma.Which is better for your kids, to stay together or to divorce?
Put it in another way. Would you be able to raise your kids who would fare better in life if y... (read in full...)
What are some precautions I should take when starting a friendship with an older man?
Q. OK,So I was on the bus and I heard two guys speak about America,one was like 30ish and the other was an old man,around 70.They didn't know each other,they were just conversating.Since I have a passion for America,I kindly interrupted them and asked ...
A. 10 March 2010: Appearances can be deceptive. Most rape cases are perpetuated by friends or friendly people or relatives.
There is no way we can read what's inside their mind. The only way is not to be too trusting of any man ,even old men or very young boys.
... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant from this?
Q. Last night my boyfriend and I were fooling around and he was rubbing his penis on my vagina. I was on top of him and he continued rubbing until he came. Could I become pregnant from this? Should I take a pregnancy test?? Thankyou...
A. 9 March 2010: Normally when you miss your periods .Sometimes , your period is delayed because of stress.
It depends on the type of test you buy. Most tests recommend testing on the day your period is due,
although you can buy some that can detect the pregn... (read in full...)
What are some precautions I should take when starting a friendship with an older man?
Q. OK,So I was on the bus and I heard two guys speak about America,one was like 30ish and the other was an old man,around 70.They didn't know each other,they were just conversating.Since I have a passion for America,I kindly interrupted them and asked ...
A. 9 March 2010: Never trust strangers or any men and don't give your telephone numbers to people whom you just met.You don't want to get calls from some weirdo's or perverts.
A person may look old and educated but you never know what goes on in their minds.Be... (read in full...)
Been with him for 10 years and want to get married...
Q. I need Help, I have been with My Boyfriend Almost Ten years, and I have hinted to Him For awhile that I want to Get married. He has a son that I just adore and He is know asking his dad why we are not married. I feel that it is Time for us to Get ...
A. 9 March 2010: Marriage may just be a piece of paper to some but it can come in useful and handy for legal and bureaucratic purposes.
You have gone on far to long to get married officially and some men do not see the point in getting a piece of paper. Cases li... (read in full...)
She asked me to dance... could this be the start of something big?
Q. Hello there. i need help. what do you think is the best thing to do in my situation. let me tell the story first. we were in the club last night with my friends celebrating my best friends birthday. we keep dancing and dancing. me and my brother ...
A. 9 March 2010: If you are adventurous and willing to give her a shot.She obviously likes you or she would not have asked you to dance or stare you in the eyes. The eyes cannot lie.
Go and find out more about her but be careful you don't step into any trap.... (read in full...)
How do I proceed with this new friendship?
Q. I am very happily married (13 yrs. with 3 children) and committed to my husband. I met a (getting divorced) man a few weeks ago at the gym and we've recently become facebook friends. He seems to need and appreciate having a friend to talk to and I ...
A. 9 March 2010: He is just a friend and nothing more ,even though you have a liking for him.Do not cross the line and know where are your limits and boundaries.
You are married and you need to be rational and ethical .
About your not allowing him to socialize... (read in full...)
Need help/advice on how to move on from my ex who hurt me so badly..
Q. Hi All, I have previously posted a question asking if I should stay with my ex who cheated on me and got a girl pregnant or if I should just move on. Its been such a hard struggle deciding which I should do even though in logic I know which optio...
A. 9 March 2010: If your love is deep and wide enough , you would accept him and his child. Love can overcome all barriers and can do all things.
There are some women who can forgive and accept the child because their love for him is too strong and they cannot h... (read in full...)
We should be like rabbits but things are going wrong...
Q. Hi I'm tash im23 I hear u can with problems with relationship I'm date this guy have be for 1year and 6 months and we live together . Thing are goin wrong he don't give me sex. And when he do I got ask but he rather wank off over porn dos that mean ...
A. 9 March 2010: He is a wabbit . After banging you for 1 year and 6 months, he has lost interest . Only a new female will make him interest in sex again.
There is nothing wrong with you. Only some men are like real wabbits and they lose interest quickly .
... (read in full...)
Help! Should I end it NOW???
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 3 years. We've had pretty normal fights and we always make up. Lately I've been asking him where he sees it going and just like a guy he ignores me or says "yeah whatever you want". I know im young but ...
A. 9 March 2010: You have incompatible needs .Tell him that you are both incompatible . It is just as simple as that .No hard feelings.
To stay with him would be like bobbing in the ocean and directionless. You need to have a plan for your future. Otherwis... (read in full...)
His little sister is invading our relationship.
Q. Okay so my boyfriends sister is coming home from living with friends. She butts in our relationship and is very needy of him. I don't like to share and feel like im competing. She also uses him and he accepts it because that's his younger sister. ...
A. 9 March 2010: If you are very unhappy , you will have to speak up to your b/f or you will go insane or become a neurotic ...LOL!
You cannot have an obnoxious woman in the same house even if it is his sister.
For your peace of mind and sanity , I hope ... (read in full...)
Need help/advice on how to move on from my ex who hurt me so badly..
Q. Hi All, I have previously posted a question asking if I should stay with my ex who cheated on me and got a girl pregnant or if I should just move on. Its been such a hard struggle deciding which I should do even though in logic I know which optio...
A. 9 March 2010: You may find it hard to forgive him but you can if you want to.
Just open your mouth and say it aloud that you will forgive him.Force yourself to say it if you have to.If you still cannot , ask God for his grace and strength to do it.
Though yo... (read in full...)
Having trust issues after 8 months
Q. I have been dating a woman for 8 months now and I still have trust issues. We have declared our love for one another and have both said that if there ever were a "soulmate", then we are it. We met on an online dating site this past summer and we b...
A. 9 March 2010: You simply need to learn how to trust her. You also need to give her some space and not suffocate her or isolate her from her friends, be they males or females. This is her world before you came into her life.
If she is happy , you will be happy... (read in full...)
How do I stop thinking about my best friend's boyfriend???
Q. i recently had sex with my best friend's boyfriend, they have been together for 10 years and have 3 children, we bumped into each other on a night out and a few friends came back to my house, everyone went around 5am and her boyfriend stayed to ...
A. 9 March 2010: You did it on a sudden impulse and the conditions were right .All your inhibitions when you were young did not matter now because you are now having a great life.
Deep in your subconscious mind, you never had the chance to have sex with him when... (read in full...)
His little sister is invading our relationship.
Q. Okay so my boyfriends sister is coming home from living with friends. She butts in our relationship and is very needy of him. I don't like to share and feel like im competing. She also uses him and he accepts it because that's his younger sister. ...
A. 9 March 2010: Your b/f comes in a package and you cannot choose which parts you want or don't want.
A house cannot have two women living together with a man .Even if the other woman is his sister or mother.
You could tell your b/f that his sister can come ... (read in full...)
Intimidated by his ex girlfriend.
Q. I'll try to keep this short. Basically I started dating this new guy b/c of a blind date thru his dad. It's been going great so far, and he lives an hour away so I know nothing about his history except what he and his friends/family has told me....
A. 9 March 2010: It is like sleeping with the enemy or the enemy under your blanket. This situation is quite untenable .If you don't enforce your limits and boundaries, you may soon say goodbye to your b/f.
What's to prevent them from moving back into their co... (read in full...)
Who to choose... my mom or my girlfriend???
Q. Ok.. to start from the beginning.. my friend and his wife moved back to where i live.. they had a hard time getting along and end up seperating.. soon after i start to date his ex wife (not divorced but separated) and everything was fine except for ...
A. 9 March 2010: It is your life and only you can decide who to chose.It is very unfortunate that you do not have a choice and must chose either her or your mom.
If you love her(g/f) greatly and think that you can work out your problems with her,then you should c... (read in full...)
He keeps putting off the wedding
Q. Pls advice. I've been with my fiance who propossed to marry me on the 4th year of our relationship (we now on the 6th year). We decided to abstain from sex 'till we get married because of our religion. We love each other but not earning much, ho...
A. 8 March 2010: Hi Puno,
You need to make a wise deciison because you have already given him 6 years of your life and you are still hanging in mid air.
If you were meant to be together , you would have being married and have a few kids by now.... (read in full...)
How can I get my mom to accept this guy?
Q. I met this great guy who happens to be 4 years younger than me. He is 20 and im 24. We are perfect for each other. Yet, im having a horrible time because my mom is totally hating the idea that this guy and i like each other. My boss likes me and ...
A. 8 March 2010: Your mother probably has a biased and stereotype opinion of models.It is not easy to change her opinions on this issue.
You could bring him over to meet her often to see for herself and hopefully he can change her mindset.
Your mother is not en... (read in full...)
What should I do about my wife?
Q. I am planning to leave my wife, but I am really scared of her - not that she is gonna beat me up or anything. The other day we were having a argument and she punched me - I was too shocked, even so she has hit me before. And she blames me for "m...
A. 8 March 2010: In every marriage, there will be up's and down's and there are fights often.
I hope that you can work at your marriage and seek those professional help if you cannot handle them.
Give your best and hope for the best.... (read in full...)
Is it true - DO big shoes mean a big penis?
Q. hey guys im just a bit curious if this is correct, but is true that guys with a big shoe size have a big ding dong? like for example if a guy had a 12 inch and a half shoe size would his penis be larger than a guy with a 5 inch shoe? is this true?? ...
A. 8 March 2010: There is no way you can know about the size of his penis by looking at any parts of his body or his whole body.
There is no correlation between the size of the man and his penis. You will only find out when you look at his organ.
... (read in full...)
Torn between the army and having a baby...
Q. i'm 20 years old and im about to join the army. I have never thought about having a baby before. I always said i didnt want one. But for the past few months everyone seems to be getting pregnant around me and its making me want one myself. My mom ...
A. 8 March 2010: Go join the army and see the world first . Enjoy life to the fullest before you settle down with diapers,boredom and endless routine chores.
... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant from this?
Q. Last night my boyfriend and I were fooling around and he was rubbing his penis on my vagina. I was on top of him and he continued rubbing until he came. Could I become pregnant from this? Should I take a pregnancy test?? Thankyou...
A. 8 March 2010: If you have ejaculated prior to you "pre-ejaculating" then it can pick up sperm that did not leave the urethra, and cause a possible pregnancy, but is not probable.
Now, here's the good news: If the guy pees BEFORE he pre-ejaculates, the acid in ... (read in full...)
Need help/advice on how to move on from my ex who hurt me so badly..
Q. Hi All, I have previously posted a question asking if I should stay with my ex who cheated on me and got a girl pregnant or if I should just move on. Its been such a hard struggle deciding which I should do even though in logic I know which optio...
A. 8 March 2010: As the famous quote from the movie, Indecent Proposal goes...If you ever want something badly, let it go.
If it comes back to you, then it's yours forever. If it doesn't, then it was never yours to begin with.
So just let go of the person yo... (read in full...)
On the one hand, my fiance, on the other ...
Q. i met this guy, we'll call him "D" i fell in love with his immediately, we have a great connection and have everything in common. things progressed quickly, living together not long after we started seeing each other. things then got rocky, we broke ...
A. 8 March 2010: No man is complete and the man we seek comes either as a good provider or a Casanova and rarely having both those qualities in a man.
Just as a complete woman should be a lady in the living room, a gourmet chef in the kitchen and a courtesa... (read in full...)
He's a control freak, a fault finder and has anger issues... Should I stay in the marriage for the sake of my son?
Q. I've been married for almost 5 years now. We rushed into things and got married right away. I've regretted it almost every day since. He's a control freak, a fault finder, and has some anger issues (but he doesn't hit me). He's never happy. Ever. I ...
A. 8 March 2010: I believe that you should not stay in a marriage when there is no love. Do not stay in an unhappy and loveless marriage because of your children.
It will only harm them more and stunt and warp their childhood developments
You have been mental... (read in full...)
He keeps putting off the wedding
Q. Pls advice. I've been with my fiance who propossed to marry me on the 4th year of our relationship (we now on the 6th year). We decided to abstain from sex 'till we get married because of our religion. We love each other but not earning much, ho...
A. 8 March 2010: You have given him so many chances and each time you have been disappointed. You will have to decide enough is enough .
If he has commitment problems , he will also have commitment problems a few years down the road. How many more years will you... (read in full...)
I've met a guy online but he doesn't phone (because of the cost). Could he have other women on the go?
Q. I met a man online. He has a great job and works in other countries alot. We have been emailing on and off for two months now. We h ave only spoken on the phone a few times because it is $4.00 a minute. We have been emailing alot recently and ...
A. 8 March 2010: If he cannot call because a woman is sitting besides him , he would not be able to e-mail too!
He is probably not calling because of the prohibitive cost. He is the prudent type and would not want to waste money on calls. He felt it was easier a... (read in full...)
We don't use a condom but he never comes inside me... so could I be pregnant?
Q. my boyfriend and i never use a condom when we have sex, but he never finishes inside me, but he has fingered me when he has seaman on his fingers. for the past week or so i have been feeling nauseated, my back has been hurting, i have cramps that ...
A. 8 March 2010: Only a pregnancy test will reveal the truth. You should go for a pregnancy test at the clinic or buy those OTC pregnancy test kit.
You could be pregnant because you had unprotected sex. Even though he did not come , his pre-cum could contain ... (read in full...)
I'm (almost) straight and married but I've developed a crush on my female boss. What now?
Q. Over the last few months I've developed a crush on my boss. (we are both women, she's straight and married. i practically straight and married.) And, I'm finding myself really obessing about her. Can't stop thinking...it feels like it's all i ...
A. 8 March 2010: Try and replace those thoughts with more positive, constructive thoughts.
Tell yourself that you are straight and married and it is impossible or a sin to even to think about it.
Each time those negative thoughts come into your mind, repea... (read in full...)
Husband works all the time, no interest/desire for sex
Q. My husband works as a radio presenter, and in the radio industry as well. For the past few weeks he's been spending far too much time at work well past working hours. It's not like he's been working for a promotion or anything, as he's been promot...
A. 8 March 2010: Work seems to consumed all his energies and his disinterest/desire for sex with you has waned is a red flag.
Men with plenty of money to burn is a target of other girls who are like the piranhas. He could be having an affair behind your back.
... (read in full...)
I'm sick of feeling alone
Q. I,m eighteen years old and finished school, unemployed and A bit anti-social. I,ve never had a relationship before and have never snogged/made out with anyone before its so embarrassing. And when i go out to a house party or a club I see a guy I ...
A. 8 March 2010: You need to do a make over and change your style. Change your hairstyle , wear some trendy clothes and put on some make ups.
Guys will take notice of you . Get to know them and everything will become natural.
Act confidence .... (read in full...)
Loving a teacher...
Q. First of all, I'm 14 years old and he's somewhere between 28-35.I know this doesn't sound right but I've really got a problem in here.It's been three years already and I cannot get over him.This feeling is growing stronger and stronger because I ...
A. 8 March 2010: You can go to this link and there are many girls like you who have this problem of falling in love with their teachers.
You will understand and will overcome what you are experiencing now.
http://laura1... (read in full...)
Husband works all the time, no interest/desire for sex
Q. My husband works as a radio presenter, and in the radio industry as well. For the past few weeks he's been spending far too much time at work well past working hours. It's not like he's been working for a promotion or anything, as he's been promot...
A. 8 March 2010: Life is about balance . If someone is giving 90% of their time to work and only 10% to the family , there will be no harmony,peace and tranquility in the home.
Work and family life are both important. If one suffers, the other will suffer too. A p... (read in full...)
Forty and really wanting a child
Q. I am 40 years old and it is killing me that I do not have kids. I really would like to have a child part of the problem is I don't even have a boyfriend or any prospects. I am totally single. What can I do?...
A. 8 March 2010: My sympathies to your situation. There are many women who are in the situation like you.
You could get married but there is no guarantee that you will have babies of your own.
Some women would try IVF or adopt a child. ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't seem to care about sex anymore
Q. Am worried. My hubby of 5yrs used to be passionate about sex. Thing is, now he does not care. We go 3 weeks to 1month no touch. He gets no erection when i walk around naked. When i force him to touch me, he sleeps with hand on my part. Think he has ...
A. 8 March 2010: If he cannot get an erection , it could be a medical or a psychological problem.
Best ,you advise him to go visit a doctor to find out.It could be stress, overworked , lack of sleep or tiredness.... (read in full...)
Torn between two brothers ...
Q. Before anyone judges me please understand my reasons for what i have done. Ive been with my boyfriend for 4 years, and the past 6 months, i've been sleeping with his younger brother who is the same age as me, 21. A little over a year ago i found...
A. 8 March 2010: Follow your heart. I would agree with you that you need to leave those two brothers. Get away from them to clear your thoughts.
You will see a clearer picture when you are away from them.Focus on your other priorities in life.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
What can I do about my neglecting mother?
Q. I am just so fed up of my mother... she is so unsupportive of everything I do, all she cares about is her boyfriend. She needs to grow up, and realise that she is responsible for her children! She has to realise that she can't act like a teenager ...
A. 8 March 2010: You are being neglected and abused by your parents.
Call ChildLine 0800 1111
ChildLine is the UK's free and confidential, 24-hour helpline for children in distress or danger.
Trained volunteer counsellors comfort, advise and protect child... (read in full...)
Everything reminds me of him. How can I stop feeling like this?
Q. Its me again. This girl - http://www.dearcupid.org/question/help--how-can-i-move-on-with.html I am still dealing with the breakup. It really hurts at times and i dont know what to do. I want to thank all you guys for the advice. I started writin...
A. 8 March 2010: If you can't solve it, it isn't a problem - it's reality. And sometimes reality is the hardest thing to understand and the thing that takes the longest to realize.
But once it hits you in the face you'll never forget it. It will always be there... (read in full...)
I hate my parents and my life ...
Q. Hey there I hate my parents some of my friends and my life. I argue with my parets constantly, my friends are always fighting do I hate them and I hate being me. All this makes me feel upset and like I never want to go to school cause my friends...
A. 8 March 2010: Lord, make us instruments of thy peace.
Where there is hatred, let us sow love,
Where there is injury, pardon;
Where there is doubt, faith;
Where there is despair, hope;
Where there is darkness, light;
Where there is sadness, joy.
O divine ... (read in full...)
Should I continue losing weight, or leave?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. We just had a son 4 months ago and we finally moved in together about a month ago. Everything seemed perfect..we get along great and work as a team. We have a lot of fun together and joke around a ...
A. 8 March 2010: Sometimes things don't seem to be what you see or think. You could be mistaken about the intentions. He could just be curious and went over that site to read it.
You should not jump quickly to conclusion because you could make a mistake here. Ju... (read in full...)
I am away from my wife and I don't want to masturbate or have an affair, so what can I do?
Q. i am married but abroad away from spouse.i am feeling frustrated as i have not been able to have an intercourse and even i have not masterbated and have not had wet dream even for the last 3 months. how do i get relaxed,when i do not want to maste...
A. 8 March 2010: Focus on those things that you like to do when you are free.
An empty mind is a devil's workshop. When your mind is preoccupied with other things, you will not think of sex.
Go out and seek your friends and have a good time.
If it does not ... (read in full...)
A day after a fight with my mom over my girlfriend, I'm getting the "silent treatment"
Q. I'm fed up right now. I came back home from college for my spring break, and wanted to evenly split time between my girlfriend and my mom. I asked about this last night here on dearcupid.org, when I had the issue. My uncle left yesterday for a ...
A. 8 March 2010: There is nothing you can do about your mom and your g/f. They will have to come to an understanding between them. Leave it to them to solve their impasse.Woman and woman are better at dealing with those issues.
You could make it worse if you inte... (read in full...)
He calls me his "woman" but he wont call me his "girlfriend"
Q. I have been seeing a guy for a little over a month. I have known hi for two years prior to dating as we are in our doctoral program together. Since our first date we have spent every day and night together except three. We text all day from wor...
A. 8 March 2010: His woman or his g/f ? Do they mean the same thing ?
It could mean different things to different persons and subject to different interpretations.
I feel that his woman has a higher status than his g/f. His woman ,means that he has unofficia... (read in full...)
What are some precautions I should take when starting a friendship with an older man?
Q. OK,So I was on the bus and I heard two guys speak about America,one was like 30ish and the other was an old man,around 70.They didn't know each other,they were just conversating.Since I have a passion for America,I kindly interrupted them and asked ...
A. 6 March 2010: Keep your distance and you don't have to go out with him. Give excuses. Talk only when you accidentally meet otherwise don't go out with him. You might give him the wrong signals.... (read in full...)
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