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writes:Hi, I don't know if any other girls 16-18 share my unfortuante, ya could say, liking for older men. By older I mean like 50.Well i've always wondered how older guys see it? I mean like do they think that these younger girls must be immature? Must be ignorant teenagers? Or inexperienced in life? Any opinions for older guys 30 plus would be apreciated. Thankyou.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2010): im sorry you were looking for an answer from an older man, im not one. but im more than happy to read all these because i thought there was something wrong with me. im 15 and and am attracted to guys in 30s and 40s. mostly teachers. basically i can find something attractive about every male teacher. i don't think anything is wrong with it, different people like different things. the only downside is i have to wait till im 18 to even date anyone. my friends think its weird that i don't date any guys but im afraid to tell them that i just don't find any guys my age attractive. oh well, three more years to go! lol. your perfectly normal and hey, at least you wont get your heart broken by some immature, sex-crazed, teenage boy. ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2010): well from experience, ladies who do that only have one reason for doing so. no two. (1) they like big things like the "P" ones.(2) they dont just believe that a younger guy could take good care of them or do the job properly.(3) they love tender things. Softer ones if possible, because they come quickly. not so fast girl.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010):
It takes no maturity to want to experience adult things before your time.
It takes maturity to refrain from trying to get these things you want for your own good.
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reader, viking621 +, writes (15 March 2010):
 Its hard to say, its been like that since male and females have been around each other through out the ages, attraction can occur at anytime. trust your judgment , be careful and live a little test the waters who knows.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2010): Hi
I am an older man in my early 50s who had a relationship with a female in her late teens.
to this day I have no idea how this came about other than our paths crossed over several months, a smile and a few kind words. one thing led to another.
Of course the age differance was significant but did not seem to matter. we had the most rewarding years of understanding, friendship, companionship that normally I would have dismissed and not of the real world.
occasionally we break with convension so be it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2010): Wow! Reading through so many of these answers has made me smile so much. I'm almost 18, and since the age of 13/14 I've fancied older men, especially teachers - take me into any school and I could guarantee you I'll find a hot teacher. Older men are just sexy, mature, caring, experienced, and for me personally, they make up for my lack of a father. I have a father who I live with, but we don't get on at all and I can't stand him, therefore not only do I want a father figure, but resenting my own father so much makes me want another older man even more.
I get stick from my friends for fancying older men, and they tell me how 'wrong' it is to fancy teachers - but what do they know? They're not me, they're not living in my head and they don't understand. I will always like older men, and guys my own age tend not to do it for me.
If any girls out there fancy chatting about this and just talking things through, then that'd be fab, cos I'd really enjoy talking to other people who are the same and aren't going to diss me 24/7.
Just add a reply and I can exchange e-mail/MSN with some of you :)
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (5 March 2010):
 Our anonymous OP asked specifically for opinions from older men and got practically none. While I appreciate you ladies building up my ego, I feel a bit like the size 18 woman who thinks she needs to be size 2 to be attractive. I'll have to learn to focus on my positive attributes. We rarely hear from the older men in relationships with younger women here, I wonder what that indicates? Could be that they are afraid because society frowns on their status, or could it be that they don't have relationship problems?
Just my thoughts this morning.
FA
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2010): My mom and dad have 21 years age difference but they are very happy and i am veryy happy for my mom, besides for me the older guy does seem more atractive
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (4 March 2010):
 Some girls are missing their father's love when young ,either because they have absentee fathers or they were brought up in a single parent home.
They are looking for a father figure or someone who is an extension of their father's personality.
Older men would like them because they don't have any baggage unlike those in their 30's. She has beauty and youth while he has the experience and stability.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2010): I think a lot of young woman are attracted to the maturity of an older man. I was married to a man who was 9 years older than me and we had two children together. As time passed we had less in common and we grew apart. At first he was happy to have someone young but the novelty wore off. We got divorced and went our separate ways. Just bear in mind that the next guy you meet may be the one, having things in common goes a long way!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2010): Hi im 18 and i was 16 when i found a atraction to somone older than me, i was only intill i moved abroad that i was told that he had feelings for me
From knowig this i realised that some older men seek personaity more than maturity because the know that somhow an older persons maturity rubbs off on you !! if you both have the same feeins for one and other maybe it might work out for better or for worse depending on his mentality
and i wish you the best
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 March 2010): I'm 17 and I don't remember the last time I was interested in anyone less than 10 years older than me. I also have older celeb crushes [Alan Rickman]. But I usually like teachers honestly. I agree with older men just being more attractive. Physically and mentally. They just have better personalities.
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reader, nonameno +, writes (4 March 2010):
I have been with a man who was 50 and I was in my 20's and it was really nice, he was very kind, respectful and fun! The age difference is great because of the experience and its a turn on for me anyway, I would go older than 50 though I dont think!
dont think age is a factor unless they are hugh hefner!
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reader, Limey +, writes (3 March 2010):
Hey,
well It's an interesting phenomenon really isnt it?
I think its more of a rite of passage than anything else.
Many teenage girls gravitate more to older men, mainly because females are that bit more mature than their teenage male counterparts. They respect you, you can have a great conversation, they have years and years of experience which can be quite attractive.Of course it can get messy.
I speak from experience! It can be a really sexy fantasy, however when you act out the reality, it may not be as sexy!
I once fantasised about a much older teacher of mine for months. Then one day he made a move..and it felt so wrong. His skin was wrinkled, his eyes were tired..his teeth old.. It felt predatory and wrong. Then again, I've had little flings with older men that can be quite pleasant, but take it slow and learn to read the signs. Many older men can take advantage, and even if they dont, you might cause some damage yourself. Marriage,Family..could be a factor at their age!
Anyway.. just letting you know its perfectly normal,
Good luck and take care of yourself!
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reader, this_years_love  +, writes (3 March 2010):
 Okay so i can hear the 'you need a father figure' posts waiting to be thurst upon you already.honestly, my dad is and pretty much always has been MY BEST FRIEND. as in i tell him things i don't tell my friends my own age, i'm twenty now but it's been like this for years and years, as long as i can remember.and yet, I have been attracted to MANY MANY men over 25, some as old as 50's.even celebrities I crush on tend to be older, like hugh laurie for example.I know that the logistics in a relationship like that would be off, but i just can't help but want a fun 'we shouldn't be doing this but we will anyway' kind of fling..I think it'd be hot I guess.There have been older men who I have legitamately had feelings for, but nothing came of it.I can't really say why, but i think it's a combination of a lot of things.1- I love learning. I live to learn. now that i'm in university, my crushes on older men have been less frequent probably because i'm so LOVING what i'm studying, but i think it's partially got to do with being attracted to somebody who could teach me so much2-I am attracted to teaching (the much older men) about me, my life, etc...there are a lot of differences between generations and I want to bring out the younger sexual side of an older man3- ages 16-early twenties are particularily dificult in terms of relating to people YOUR age. I moved out of home at 17 and so now at twenty, I find i have NOTHING in common living in a dorm with 17 and 18 year olds who JUST got away from their parents and still want to rebel in every way possible. I am not finished learning, but I'm certainly ahead of them in a lot of ways and so i seek companionship in older people. highschool was the same because I was one of very few people living on their own and succeeding in school.4-This may sound odd, but I think the fact that i am SO close to my parents has something to do with it. I know it's mainly because they raised me, but once i got past that 'im sixteen you don't know me!' stage of life, i realized they understood me and my thoughts more than ANYONE my age ever could, so therefore logically somebody their age could also understand me (I know this doesn't really make sense but its a small part of it).Anyway, you're not weird or crazy. that's my main point.I get laughed at a lot but now once you get to twentyish or have really good friends at 18/19 who you are comfortable talking sex and romance with without being judged, you'll get used to it and they'll stop really caring because you'll realize you're ALL attracted to different types of people.Don't worry, It is frusterating because it's unnattainable, but that's half the fun because you want it all the more.best wishes love!xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2010): I think any more than 12 years older than yourself is far too much. Purely because it would be impossible to work, just the fact you would lack having things in common with each other. Have you ever tried it with anybody that age? I don't think you'd like it as much as you think. I mean, surely a 40 year old wouldn't like half the music you're into, or want to do half the stuff you'd want to. But there again, it all depends on how matture you are and what you're into and obviously if you're both going out with each others age groups it's what to expect. Also many people would look at it as 'wrong' but that isn't really a reason not to. I'm 17 myself and i'm with a guy 22 who I love very much, but even us having a 5 year age difference it can be tricky at times, because hes done and been through everything I want to do now, also I want to go out more where as he don't as much as I do etc. My mom tells me he is too old for me so if I was to ever go out with someone 20 odd years older she would kill me, also my dad's only 40 so another reason not to, it would seem like I was going out with my dad, not good. But everyones different I guess, if you like it then go for it just be careful though, guys older than 40 who are interested in young girls you'll find they are usually perverts because not many decent guys would be interested in such a young age to have a relationship with but yeah like I say it all depends on the person, he might just be very shy and find it difficult to talk to people his own age. But I don't think they would see you as immature, the fact youre clearly not if youre interested in guys that age and at least you will not get used like young lads use girls nour days! all the best. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2010): I think they'd just go WOOOOOOOhooooooooo i got a young hottie, probs most wouldn't care what your thoughts were
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (3 March 2010):
Actually I'm always quite confused by girls your age who would be attracted to guys my age. Since you ask, I enjoy spending time with teenagers, usually. I like to teach, and I enjoy giving advice. But I can't seem to wrap my mind around the idea of being attracted (boyfriend / girlfriend) with someone under 35. I would think of you as if you were one of my daughters friends. I would probably be a bit protective. I'm smart enough never to be alone with you. That is me. Other men are different.
Hope that helps,
FA
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2010): I'm 20 years old, and I'm also attracted to older men. Guys around my age are available, but I seem to take notice of older men more often. I have a positive relationship with my father, so that cannot always be the reason why girls gravitate towards older men. Older men to me are just more attractive, (mostly) more mature, confident.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2010): There was 20 years difference between my mum and dad. And they lived perfectly happy, before he died. If that's who you are attracted to, I say go for it. My dad couldn't believe his luck when my beautiful model mother fell for him!
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reader, Libra1963  +, writes (3 March 2010):
 I bet you have not got or did not have a positive relationship with your father. Most girls who are attracted to older men want a father really. They want someone to look after them and tell them its ok and be there for them.
I understand as I was the same. Be careful. There is nothing wrong with it as long as the age gap is not too excessive. 10 years is about workable. Any older than than there are bound to be problems with interests.
Good luck!
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