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writes:Ok me and my girlfriend have been dating for 7 1/2 months now. The first couple months were great and everything was perfect we spent all the time together that we needed we did tons of stuff together and we were very serious about each other. Lately however there has been a significant change. She has been hanging out with her friends (mainly her guy best friend) a lot more than she used to. She then got a new job where she doesn't have as much free time as she used to. I didn't really notice the change till then. For example in a month she hung out with her friends 13 times and hung out with me 3 times once for 2 hours another for 10 minutes while she was on break and another for 2 hours. I feel valued under her friends cause she has even seen her friend that lives 1 hour away more than she has seen me when im 10 minutes down the road. I even tried asking if i could hang out with her and her friends and she said no because she doesn't want to mix friend time with boyfriend time and that she likes to talk about things with them that she doesn't wanna talk about with me. I then confronted her about how i felt she prioritizes her friends over me and she got all dramatic and everything and promised to do better. That very night after we talked and she said she was really tired and wanted to go home she went to her friends house and stayed there for 2 hours and went past curfew and then the next day right after school she hung out with him again for 2 hours and then said she couldn't hang out with me before work cause she needed a nap. I don't know what to do i've tried being patient and understanding i've tried telling her my feelings nothing seems to be working help please???
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (14 March 2010):
 That was some excitement, huh! Sometimes, people can go astray after some time.They need to be shooed back to the right path. Well done!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionty for your opinions i confronted her one more time saying that this just wasnt working out and she got really scared that i was going to dumped her and has immediatly changed her ways as of right now. i dont know if this will last for just a couple days a couple weeks or if its a permanant fix but i will update if it is not. in the meantime if u have any extra advice to give it would be greatly appreciated.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2010): i feel this way about my boyfriend.i don't know, maybe you just have to let go, maybe she's doing it on purpose. if not then she just needs to grow up
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (13 March 2010):
Maybe, it has become too routine, stale, predictable and uninteresting . You need to make your hangouts more interesting and exciting ,that she would want to hang out more with you than her friends.
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