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writes:I went on a date with a guy i work with and i feel like i am gettin mixed signals bc we kissed during the movie and afterwards we talked for an hour and he gave me a hug and then he texted me afterwards asking me if i was able to come to his friends house that night...if he is interested in me then why did he give me a hug and should i talk to him about this?
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reader, ammize15 +, writes (15 March 2010):
ammize15 is verified as being by the original poster of the question i want to thank everyone for my issue...so far things are going good between me and this guy we talk everyday now and we joke around about our mistakes and for now on i am not going to over think everything that happens but i do appreciate ya'lls advice. :)
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (12 March 2010):
 Nothing to worry about just yet...and no, don't ask him about it.
The problem many women seem to have (me included) is that we overanalyze everything and we want to read into little things like this to try and predict what a man's next action will be. Guess what, it doesn't work and it only drives you insane.
I think the fact that you did kiss and that he did stay in touch after is a good sign. Let things progress naturally. If you see him again, take his cues and go with the flow. Asking him about the hug would be strange.
I think it's better that he gave you a hug than groping you or something, don't you think? It shows that he knows you have boundaries and it shows he respects those. Be glad you're not on here asking us why he groped you!
So relax, don't worry about this small detail. If he's genuine and interested, you'll soon find out. :)
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (12 March 2010):
 Hes probably seeing you as a friend right now if this is the first time he has done this but romantic relationships can grow from this if its what you both want.
I hug my girlfriend often, its a nice feeling.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (12 March 2010):
 You kissed and he gave you a hug.It could be more of a friendly gesture and we can't say for sure what was his intentions.
I think it would be embarrassing for him to explain his actions or motives . I think you should just let it pass.
If he is interested in you ,he will ask you for a second date or will soon contact you or show attentions to you.
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reader, PeterPan +, writes (12 March 2010):
 I'm guessing (since you didn't say it) -- was this a first date?
If he gave you a hug, isn't that good thing? I mean, where you expecting something else? I'm a bit confused myself... but that probably does mean he's sending mixed signals. I would definitely air your concerns and see what's in his mind. He does definitely seem interested (personally, if I was kissing in a movie, that implies interest), but if you're confused, by all means, get clarity.
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