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writes:my boyfriend can hardly ever last long during sex and its getting really frustrating! today he finished in literally less than 2 minutes and we'd hardly gotten into it. is this like a medical problem or normal? i thought he would be able to control it at least to some extent. numerous times he cums in about 5 minutes and maximum time is usually about 15. i'd be fine with it if he would rest a few minutes and go again but he acts like hes completely worn out and goes to sleep. is there anything i can do about it? ive talked about it with him but he just acts like its out of his controlalso, he smokes A LOT of weed (he has his medical marijuana card for back pain). would that have any affect on things?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe's 20. I've never orgasmed from him or anyone else and even though thatd be nice its still good without it. We never foreplay so maybe that's it. He told me that weed makes him lazier when it comes to sex (and everything I'm guessing) so maybe he just doesn't feel like it and it probably makes him fall asleep. He's definitely a weed smoker first and a boyfriend second but that's a whole other problem
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reader, ulick  +, writes (13 March 2010):
 Depends how old he is and how much experience he has. When I was in my teens and early 20es I would come a lot faster than now. I did always worked to control myself and now I do practically come when I like it. I think you should practice with him. Check stuff online about it.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (13 March 2010):
 He is inexperience or it could also be his back pain which makes him uncomfortable in any prolong sex play.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (13 March 2010):
You need to get him to do a lot of foreplay with you before the final deed. If he can make you come through oral and other stimulation FIRST then it won't matter as much how long he takes for the final act. He's inexperienced.
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reader, Kenj  +, writes (13 March 2010):
 It can be, sounds like hes getting too excited too quickly. Sounds like you need more foreplay and save the main event until the end. Teasing your partner can be very exciting. Suggest getting some sex toys and ask him to try them on you. It will give you more pleasure while holding him back.
A lot of guys miss out this step and get straight to it which is a shame because its an important part of sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2010): It could be the marijuana.
There could also be another reason. You need to try at least 20 minutes of foreplay before the actual penetration. Most women do note orgasm from penetration alone.
He also needs to sned Little Picard to warp five at least half a day before you have sex. This will help to make him last longer, as it will take longer for him to climax.
If problems persist, seek medical help. If hs stamina is so low that he falls asleep after such a brief period of sex as 5 minutes...
15 is about the average time for sex. Any longer without an orgasm and the females tend to get bored.
Flynn 24
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reader, LessonsLearned +, writes (13 March 2010):
Hmmm..if anything the weed should help prolong the physical reaction.
Some men are just wired to orgasm very quickly. It's not that there's anything medically wrong with him, its just how he's wired. But there are things you can do to compensate.
He can try masturbating to orgasm and then try to have sex again soon after, if he's able. Sometimes that can delay things. If you enjoy oral sex, he can pleasure you that way, get you near orgasm and then "finish you off" with sex after your already at the point. If you don't care for oral sex then use a dildo or vibrator to get you close and he can finish the job from there.
The real problem here is he's a pot smoker first and boyfriend second. The pot could be killing his motivation to deal with the problems in his relatuionship. You may need to confront him on this.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (13 March 2010):
 I heard that marijuana actually slows down the climax and heightens the sensitivities. It may be different for everybody. It's normal for a guy to come quickly. Men who care for you would control his urge to come. Ask him to stop when he's about to cum, then start over again after a few minutes. He has to focus. After a guy comes it might take more than 30 minutes for a second session. Some guys can withhold cumming for hours, but still be able to make themselves cum in a minute. They are able to hold it because they enjoy the whole thing and want to please a woman. If you had a guy like that you would never go back to a guy like your boyfriend. It has to be his interest to please you, he might not change just because you ask him to. Telling him about guys who last long might trigger his defense. He might even blame you and say it's your problem that you can't cum, because there are girls who could cum pretty quickly without much stimulation. A sexually mature guy would not go to sleep without knowing you are totally satisfied. Otherwise, he is only taking but not giving.
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