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writes:I've only known my best friend for nearly 2 years, but we instantly had an amazing connection and got on so well. My trouble is, for my bday my friend blew me off and didnt get me so much as a card. Her bday is comming around and deep down I want to be a dickhead and when I see her just say I got you what you got me. Im a nice guy and feel conflicted. I don't know whether to do something nice and if the same happens again take some action, or whether to put my foot down.It really hurt me deep down on my bday, not that I could say anything, it's not a guy thing to do. Should I forgive and get over it this once or am I being reasonable not getting anything ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your responses.
Just wanted to add that she didnt forget and intentionally blew me off. It just annoyed me that for her last bday I put alot of time and effort in.
Thanks again.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (13 March 2010):
 You should forgive her and give her the benefits of doubt. It could be some unintentional human errors.
Whatever the reasons ,you should not hold it against her as you are her best friend.
Does she treat you in the same way ?
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reader, zedd  +, writes (13 March 2010):
Don't be childish, maybe she just forgot it. But even if not, if you really are good friends, just get her something. Then you can say you did everything to maintain the friendship. If she doesn't realizie after it that she should have done the same thing for your birthday and will not care about stuff like that in the future, then after all you are not good friends and even then you don't have to "put your foot down" ot "take action", just forget the friendship and stop making putting an effort into it.
Be the wiser one, show her that you are the one who cares and just see if she gets the message.
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reader, Kenj +, writes (13 March 2010):
 Yes forgive them, they may have genuinely forgot. Get your friend a card but dont do anything else.
See if you get a card next year. If you dont then dont buy one for your friend on their next birthday.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2010): Yer i would be hurt to if that happend to me but at the same time maybe she thort you might of not wointed one Did she wish you happy bithday To get to your question if you think a lot of this girl as your bestfriend then you get her that card and what ever you woint to do As in the end you might end up hurting yourself instead its your call Only you can do the wright thing
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