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writes:I just got a boyfriend not even a month ago. He was sweet, respectful, nice, and never pushed me on anything. It was the night of my 19th birthday when I got a text message from my boyfriend's ex. She claims that I should be careful and that my boyfriend cheats. I started wondering and called my boyfriend, he denied it and hung up. I then called two of his best friends and only one of them told me that my boyfriends cheated on me the weekend before my birthday.I then grilled out a confession from the other best friend and he also said that he cheated on me with another girl.I called back my boyfriend and started crying. Sobbing and begging him why he did it. He didnt talk much and only said that he loved me, that the one night was nothing, and that he wanted to be with me. I told him he had to explain everything to me and he said he would. His best friend then called me begging me to forgive all of them for not telling me sooner.I don't know what to do now. I'm a good Christain girl, and I know I am to forgive, and i'm falling for this guy, but should i forgive and work on our relationship, or should i say "hit the road?"Help me please
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (13 March 2010):
 Can you go on with your life without missing or thinking of him?
If you can , then you can forgive him and tell him to hit the road.
If you can't,then you will have to forgive and pardon his sin.Wipe your slate clean and give him another chance.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (12 March 2010):
 Hit the road, definitely. You can be a good Christian and get your eternal reward, but why go out of your way to make the intervening time unpleasant?
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (12 March 2010):
You can forgive him and become just his friend, but don't be his girlfriend anymore. I guarantee you he will do it again.
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reader, kayla20  +, writes (12 March 2010):
 if i was you id run for the hills if he has a background for cheating and has cheated on you already and yourve barely been together a month he obviously doesnt have much respect for you otherwise he would have told you if he felt really bad about it and it was a mistake, his blatently going to continue to do this.he says he loves you but you havent even been together a month if he really loved you then he wouldnt of felt the need to cheat on you.your supposed to be in the hunnymoon stages of your relationship where you want to spend every minute together and be all over eachother he shouldnt be doing this with someone else.his obviously what you call a player who wants the best of both worlds he wants a girlfriend that he can come to whenever he pleases and a bit on the side from time to time do u really want to share him with other girls?this relationship is just looking at heartbreak on your part not his as his only considering his own feelings and not yours you can do so much better and if you get out of it now itl be alot easier than 6 months down the line when he does it again.you need to have respect for yourself and realise that you dont deserve to be put through this and learn from this experience because if you dont you will have alot of trust issues with other guys you might get with in the future good luck hope all goes well.
p.s dont expect the truth from your boyfriend when he tells you what happened you probably wont here the full story and hel probably try and convince you it was a terrible mistake and hel never do it again but once you cheat in a relationship it will never work out trust me
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2010): He cheated on you twice.
Forgiveness is appropriate when someone had truly made a mistake and is genuinely sorry. Your boyfriend did not own up to the cheating and you wouldn't have found out had his ex not text you.
Leave. He is not worth it. Also leave before you fall in love with him completely.
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reader, lilprincs001 +, writes (12 March 2010):
You guys haven't been together that long and he is already cheating on you! That isn't good. I personally do not believe in cheating. The bible does say to forgive but it also says that cheating is a sin. You can forgive him but that doesn't have to involve staying with him. I would move on sweety. :) You can do better!! Find you a person that really loves you,, those are the ones that don't cheat!
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