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writes:Ok, my older cousin used to touch me all the time. I was 10 years old and he was 13. I didn't know what masterbating was and why he did it, but he used to be my best friend when i was 10. So we used to sit together in the same chair because it was a rocking chair - nothing sexual intended. And he suddenly started touching my private bits (downstairs) but through my clothes. Everytime we sat together he'd try it. He was 13 so he knew exactly what he was doing, and I didn't know anything as I was 10. He carried on and I found it uncomfertable so I started moving away from him. He was still doing it in Year 7 (12 years old) and he was 15. I tried moving away. He rarely comes to my house now, but he comes with my uncle and my mum and my uncle go outside for a cigarette and it'll leave me and him alone in the lounge. And I get up and make excuses to keep walking around and do things to keep me active and up. Because I know what will happen if I sit down. I've tried it, he sat next to me and got closer. But I moved. He hasn't succeeded in touching me since I was 12 and I'm now 14. But I just feel really weird and like he's a pervert. It is wrong isn't it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2010): be firm - tell him no and how you do not like him that way. if he tries anything then yelling "MUM!!!!!" loudly every time he does may put him off. My brother and myself were too friendly as children and teenagers with each other (i was the younger one too) and although i would't call my brother a pervert, the behaviour we did was not suitable. I would just think he likes you or that he is curious about females but he should not be using you like this - particularlly as you do not like it too. But firm and blunt and honest - and if that doesn't work then yelling mum every time may work - when she comes in the room, make an excuse like "oh, thought i saw a spider, sorry" - then when she goes look at your cousin and say, "that is how easy it is to get help if you come anywhere near me again when i don't want you too. You do it again and you will be in trouble, you have been warned, so stay away etc". He may not be a prevert, just curious but he does need telling and you have got to be firm about it, hope i helped x
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (13 March 2010):
 It is wrong to touch you , grope, caress or fondle your below. Next time he does it , give him a hard kick or a tight slap.
That should end further rubbing or accidental touching.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (13 March 2010):
Why have you not told your mum? Tell your mum immediately. This is wrong. Or if you don't want to, tell him that you are going to tell your mum if he ever does it again. You have to stand up for yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2010): It is very wrong for him to do that you should tell him that you know what he was doing to you when you where yonger and what he is trying to do to you when he moves close to you and tell him that you will tell your mother if he trys anything like that agein and if realy bothers you during life and daily activetys then tell your mother trust me this has happend to me when i was yonger but it was my sister who did inapropreiate things to me it is always better to talk about it becuse keeping it in will only make the anger grow
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2010): Yes, it is very wrong. Please talk to someone - if you feel odd about talking to your parents, find another cousin or a friend to talk to.
You are doing the right thing by staying out of his way. That is great strategy. But do remember if he does try to do something you need to learn to say, 'no'. And make a noise about it. Even if that is awkward, you have to learn to speak up if someone touches you inappropriately. Most molestors are cowards and nothing shuts them up like a brave girl
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reader, LessonsLearned  +, writes (13 March 2010):
Anything sexual at your age is innapropriate. But the fact that he continues to attempt to victimize you makes him very wrong indeed. If you feel the need to tell your praents, by all means do so. If he attempts to do it again, you can also threaten to tell your parents if he ever tries it again. That should scare him straight. But don't let yourself be alone with him too far away from parents or guardians.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (13 March 2010):
Yes, it is very wrong. Even if he wasn't your cousin and some boy, it's very inappropriate for him to be touching you in such a way. You definitely need to tell your parents what he does. They will not be mad at you, they'll want to protect you.
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reader, charmzx5 +, writes (13 March 2010):
 yes your cousin is in deed apervert it's best if you try to say away from him and if he touches you moves his hand or hit it or just tell him"what are you trying to do(are you gay or homo)"
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