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writes:me and my boyfriend broke up yesterday over something stupid. When we fight, I usually keep quiet but yesterday i was so full of anger so I fought back. I know I got so angry because he never keeps his promises and he always lied to me. I love so much despite all the lies he said to me. After the fight yesterday, we broke up and I chose to be with my friends for the rest of the day so that I wouldnt feel lonely and depressed. My friends adviced me to wait for him to contact me first (I always initiate contact everytime we fight) so that I would know if he still loves me. I waited till I can no longer bear it.This morning I sent him a text message asking if there's anything we need to talk about. He said no because he's done with me. He said he loves me but he doesnt want to be with me anymore. I told him that even though he's sayjng that he doesnt want to be with me, I know there's a little part of him that wants to be with me.we're both 18 and we go to the same school.Should I wait for him to miss me? How do I get him to talk to me? I love so much I cant bear to lose him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2012): Hi, I would call his bluff and send him a text back saying' Ok; I accept it's over. All the best.
Then go silent, and act nonchalant. That will shcok him and that way you will see if he is serious about ending it. Make him work for you if he wants you back too, as he should not say stuff like that without meaning it.
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reader, malletchick76  +, writes (6 September 2012):
 From an outsider's perspective, it sounds to me like he isn't worth it. If he always lies to you and doesn't make an effort to keep promises, then you'll just have these problems over and over again.
I would really, really, really reconsider how you feel about him. ONLY give him a second chance if he practically begs for it. You CANNOT change him, he has to change himself.
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reader, sweetiebabes +, writes (6 September 2012):
 Let him feel sorry for what he did and with his lies. Do not initiate contact anymore. He has devalued you and I do not think that is LOVE.
If I am you, I will move on with my life and build my self-confidence and self-respect again. Do not allow anybody to take advantage of you.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (6 September 2012):
 You should not be chasing him or waiting for him. He should be the ones making ammends and now he is flipping it so that he does not have to be the one rejected. Love should not be so hard. You have to rethink about taking him back. Your aloneness (not loneliness) right now is better than more heartbreak in the long run. You are losing the bad side of him. I am sure you don't miss his lies and your fights.
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