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writes:Hey...this sounds really sad but I'd like some advice on how to cope with missing my boyfriend. I'm usually not the clingy type (completely the opposite in fact!) but this ones different and I really really like him. When I dont see him for a few days I get really down and even though I still see my friends etc it doesnt distract me from missing him. I don't want to be a desperate, clingy girlfriend - what can I do?! Reply to this Question
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reader, oliviaclairex +, writes (6 September 2012):
 It's normal to miss him!
Just when you aren't with him, try to enjoy it to! Try think, oohh 'me time' and that you can chill out and do what you wanna do, and go see your friends, and try to get excited about when you are next going to see him rather than be upset about missing him :) x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2012): Do YOU think you're desperate and clingy for having these feelings? It's normal, and I would even guess that you are just getting to know the person which makes your excitement justified and natural.
Missing someone is a real feeling that you have. Don't ignore it, but acknowledge it. Also, know that you can't be together all the time so occupy yourself doing other things until the next time you meet up.
A simple "I miss you" wouldn't be considered by anybody as being clingy/desperate. If you can't see yourself saying the words, then suggest meeting up for a date, this implies that you want to see him and that you miss him.
I think your fear comes out of being judged for showing desire openly. A good practice is to have something to do until the next time you guys can set up to meet.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (5 September 2012):
 Missing someone is part of being in a love relationship. Love can be like a drug. You can accept the feelings you have and not fight it. You are not your emotions but you can observe them and keep telling yourself nothing will go wrong even if you can't see your boyfriend every day. It helps if your boyfriend can acknowledge how you feel. Being non clingy does not mean you have to suppress these feelings. Just a simple, "I miss you, wish you were here." can go a long way.
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reader, Plumb  +, writes (5 September 2012):
 Your neither being desprate nor clingy, You simply just miss your boyfriend. I know it may feel like an overwhelming feeling of cinglyness but its just you wanting to be with him.
The feeling of him always being there in your mind will somewhat fade but never go away since your inlove with him.
You should try doing something you really enjoy or calms you down so if you do feel clingy you dont have to be so freaked out by your own feelings.
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