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writes:am i overeating that my girlfriend off a few months wont tell any off her family or friends about me also wont change her relationship status.... as in her words thats only for nosey people... i asked her about it tonight again and i was just fogged off saying i will get around to it am i going mad thinking he i hiding something or should i get out before i get to attached im sick to death of asking why or when ... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for your answers i think im just going to talk to her about it.... be out straight ither way ill figure out what to do from there
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2012): I think you could try backing off a little bit to clear your head and give yourself other options and directions to go in case this doesn't work out.
By options I don't mean have other women tucked away in the back up drawer, but have other productive things you can do if this relationship breaks down, so it doesn't become the centre of your world and run your life.
I understand about the facebook thing, I changed mine several time both in and out of a my relationship, and all you get is nosy people asking questions and sticking their noses in, so in the end I decided to leave mine at 'Single' when I was in a relationship (I'm not saying this is either a reason or an excuse for her, but still there's a valid point about facebook.)
To be perfect honest with you, it DOES sound like she's in two minds about this relationship because normally, people are as excited as a child on Christmas day when they get into a relationship with someone they're absolutely crazy about, but it just doesn't sound as though she's "That crazy" about you.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (6 September 2012):
 Your are entitled to your feelings. You are not overreating but the real question is what you do with her now. You probably feel that she is not taking you seriously, taking your feelings into consideration, and offers no comfort or reassurance. You may also feel that she is just dating you for the time being until she finds someone else she is crazy about. I don't think sharing your frustration would inspire any change. Don't feel bad about falling in love first. It should never be a power game. You can try backing off, clear your mind, then figure out what you want to do with her. Staying in a relationship that's unbalanced will cause resentment. Try not to think it is about you. Most likely it is about her.
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