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writes:Hi so i just started working at a new job, and the very first day I was greeted by a very handsome coworker. I dont usually get flustered around cute boys, but with him I was a mess. I noticed throughout my shift, this guy kept.coming over and talking to me. He kept asking me all about myself. Than he would leave when I got customers, but as soon as they were gone he would come back to start a new convo with me. I got so clumsy around him and was blushing like hell. He didnt even work in my department but kept coming to mine. Im sure its all just in my head but he seemed maybe sorta interested. Anyways my question to you, is how would I find out if there was some sort of interest? And this is at my work so I have to be hella noncreepy about it.
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reader, chaijam  +, writes (1 September 2012):
Work relationships are a tricky situation. You just started the new job, give yourself some time to settle in and get to know this guy better. Be friends first! For all you know he could be doing this with every new girl who starts working at the story.I say relationships at work are tricky because if things go wrong, you guys still have to see each other every time you go to work! It's not like a party where you can tell someone they're attractive and if it goes badly then you could easily find a way to never see them again. You cannot do that with a work relationship.As for wondering what he thinks of you, give it time! If you guys talk every shift you have then yes, he wants to get to know you better. But at the same time, he could just be being friendly. Do you know what his current relationship status is?I don't think telling him he looked good is the best idea. It's normal to find people attractive at work but telling them can create awkward situations for the future and is crossing a line that you cannot go back from.As I said, give it time. Be patient.All the best,J
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2012): Yeah i meant an interest like did he think i was cute or would he maybe wanna get to know me better. Would it be to weird to tell he he looked good that day the next time i see him?
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (31 August 2012):
 Some sort of interest as in what? Just flirting at work, casual dating or real relationship? It's too fast for a real relationship but nothing is going to happen without dates. You can casually ask him whether he wants to join you at lunch, so you have more time to talk about each other. Remind him it's no pressure, and that it's just he seems like a nice person to talk to, that's all. When there is a nice flow of conversastion going, you can then ask him a general opinion on office dating, and see how receptive he is to the idea.
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