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*alliantVirgin
writes:Okay, so last week, I was getting fingered by a guy that I've been fooling around with. I'm a virgin and I guess I never really took into consideration about my hymen. Anyways, while his fingers were inside of me, he pulled out and said "Are you um, on your.." and had blood all over his fingers. I was so embarrassed!! I thought I was on my period but I finished it only 2 weeks ago. So, we just kind of awkwardly got dressed and he took me home. Obviously, I had to tell my best firend about it and we figure out that he must've broken my hymen! So, I texted him last night and it was like; "So I figured out we were wrong" "Yeah" "do you know what happened..?" "Yep" and so I felt really bad cause he was acting all awkward, so I said "I'm sorry if you're awk about the whole 'cherry popping' thing. We can stop everything if you want." and he told me we need to talk in person.What's going on??!! Is he not okay with that? Are some guys disgusted about breaking hymens (is it the blood)? I just don't know what to think and I'd love to get some advice/opinions!!!
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reader, rescuer01 +, writes (3 September 2012):
No,I'm a guy and I never were disgusted by breaking a girl's hymen.There are some guys who get alittle quimish when it comes to blood,but I wouldn't think it would be to the point of disgusted.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (2 September 2012):
 He thought it would have hurt and you would have stopped him. The point of fingering you was to please you. It was awkward because he didn't know what went wrong and neither of you knew what to say. And then you texted him that it was wrong. You are inexperienced and innocent. A guy who's just a hang out would not have fingered you if he knew you were a virgin. I don't think he's disgusted with breaking hymens, he really thought it was your period at first. I won't judge him because of that. I think it's normal to find blood unpleasant and a turn off. I agree if you don't know him too well then he is not going to do boyfriend stuff like hugging you and reassuring you everything's okay. I guess he wants to talk in person so you will know where both of you stand. You should talk to him because he sounds like he cares. This is not something you go over in a text.
I would still say that breaking a hymen though penetrative sex is more romantic than fingering. Some people want their first time to be special, like love making, and not just turning on errogenous zones and cumming.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2012): he sounds very immature. if he cant cope with that then how would he cope with babies and all that -find someone else.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (1 September 2012):
 I would say he didn't know you were a virgin?
If he did and he acted all disgusted I'd drop him instantly. There is nothing you can do about a little blood at that stage.
However, I think you need to actually get to know the guy before you add sex to the mix.
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reader, DanceInTheDark +, writes (1 September 2012):
 Honestly, bleeding happens. If he can't handle that, he's probably too immature to be with a woman. Don't feel ashamed or anything.
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