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writes:Okay I have a few questions, I dated a girl not to long back that I lost my virginity to, she was a whore so I never really liked sleeping with her, but because of that fast, I got really good at using my fingers on her and bringing her to a gushing orgasm within minutes, so my finger skills are really good.Okay heres where I am going, after me and my ex went our seperate ways, which I was more than happy to do, I met this wonderful great girl who I shared so much in common with and was a virgin, and we started dating, well about 5 weeks into a wonderful relationship, she finally got the confidence to let me do some forplay with her, after she felt comfortable.My question tho is this, I have a feeling she is really a virgin because I cannot fit more than my pointer finger in her without it getting tight, I make sure to always ask her what feels good to her and if what im doing hurts, and she always tells me, me knowing shes a virgin im really careful, we havent had sex yet and im patient for her so I am not rushing her into anything.But anytime I go down on her to either finger her or eat her out, here is the funny problem lol, my last girlfriend had a desensitised clit and playing with it did nothing for her, this one, if I tonguer her clit and play with it, her legs will twitch like no other, but when it starts feeling really good she just bursts out laughing and sitting up, why I dont know but will a habit like this be broken the longer I do foreplay with her?Also when I take my time slowly and finger her, it seems like she doesnt have nearly as much sensation with fingering or finger stimulation of the clit as she does if I play with it with my toungue, she says when I finger her, it gets sore after so long, and that just my pointer doing a "come here" motion, my ex I could easily fit 2-3 fingers in and work them in and out real fast and bring her to gushing orgasm in like 3 minutes, this one I can barely fit one finger in without her giggling to death lol or it hurting her. Over time before we have sex, with frequent foreplay, should her severe sensitivity and laughing outburst stop?She has said to me that shes never felt this good before and the only reason she "giggles" is because shes never had a really good feeling like that ever before, I love this girl to death and plan to take care of her needs, I just hope the giggling gets less over time lol, so...will it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2010): This may just be because she is new to it i think she will change in time to come. What ever if this does not turn you off then whats the big deal?
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reader, FreakyFreak +, writes (25 June 2010):
FreakyFreak is verified as being by the original poster of the questionto jannipeg, im not trying to "purposlt compare, as I was jsut wondering mostly in this post, if the girl will eventually get past giggling lol, as far as labeling the "ex" like I did, I know it can be "wrong" but my ex was a really bad choice in the matter, she had two kids, had sex with more than 35 men since she was 15, NEVER wore condoms with any guy she slept with since she was fixed, was a prescription pill addict, and former methanphetamine addictShe was a woman full of problems who used me for everything I had, so "whore" is a kind word compared to what she deserves lol, i'm a nice guy and I deserved better, and I finally did, and cant be happier, thank you to you two for some great answers, I really appreciate it =).
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reader, Blue Sahara +, writes (25 June 2010):
 It sounds like a combination of not being used to the feelings and awkwardness. Most women aren't as comfortable with their sexuality as men are. So when they first have things done to them there is just as much awkwardness as there is pleasure. In time she will probably calm down a little and allow herself to enjoy the feeling.
Another option is that you might actually be tickling her. You might want to try pressing harder with your hand or tongue or make your motions in circles.
Every woman likes different things so you are going to have to experiment a little to find what she likes the best.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (24 June 2010):
 Every woman is different. Some get more sensitive over time, some get desensitized. Your finger skills could be good with one woman and be too much for another. Her giggling is her unique way of expression. It may not be pleasant for you but it's far better than others who had no sensitivity, or who exclaim "Jesus!" whenever they are high. Maybe don't aim for the clit all the time. Touch her under the clit and around it and only occasionally conclude with rubbing the clit. My second advice would be to stop comparing, stop labelling women "whore" and "little girl" and let your woman grow in confidence with you.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (24 June 2010):
Basically, ignore whatever your ex was or how things worked with your ex. She is out of the picture. Your girl never had an orgasm before with you. Or ever. She needs time to understand how to work her body, how to orgasm basically. It is a lot of work for some women. And while your ex might have had it easy, it matters nothing to this relationship. To get an orgasm you need 3 things. For the man to know how to work it (which you know), for the woman to know how to work it (she needs to know her own body well enough) and for the two of them to know what works with each other. You have 1 out of 3.
Your girl giggles because she doesn't know her own body yet and doesn't understand what to do with the feelings you give her. She won't get "desensitized" per se, she will get used to it. The nerves are still intact however and just as sensitive...
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