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writes:I am fifteen years old and I've been with my boyfriend for 9 months. He is my first boyfriend and I love him very much. Some days he will be happy and talkative but on other days he gets in bad moods and seems really depressed. I understand people have bad days, but his bad days happen almost every other day. When he gets in these moods he is irritable and very untalkative. I ask him if anything is wrong but he says no even though his actions strongly point otherwise. When he is in these mood it affects me and makes me worried and makes me sad. He tells me its unhealthy that my mood is affected by him but I tend to be sensitive to others feelings and the people around me. He also asked me if we broke up would I be able to move on and be happy. I feel like I'm doing something wrong in our relationship and I can't make him happy. What do I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI know he doesn't have the best relationship with his family but I know that's not the reason he's upset so often because whenver something happens with them he always tells me about it. He isn't a gemini. I also forgot to add when I ask if I did something wrong he gets a little mad at me. Or if I tell him "It seems like you don't want to talk right now do you want to call me back later?" he gets mad and defensive. I've been trying to let the moods pass but its just getting to the point where it gets harder and harder to do it.
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reader, ShelbyS01201  +, writes (20 June 2010):
 This may just be your boyfriend's natural personality. He might just be having some issues with his grades, or maybe a family ordeal. If he is happy just about every other day, then you must know that there are some background problems. What you must do is just let the moods pass, because you're not doing anything wrong. If you really have a nagging to find out, you can sit and talk with him to see what's going on. He must trust you by now, and you could show that you care by offering help with his problems. Good Luck!!
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (20 June 2010):
 It's good to be sensitive to his feelings, but it's not your responsibility to make him happy. You didn't do anything wrong. Tell him you have faith he'll get better and that you will be there for him always. At the same time be realistic because his condition could be lifelong. You have been with him for long enough and you have the right to know more about him. From what you wrote I can't really tell how serious that is. Has he talked to a professional yet? Counselling in school is free.
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reader, angel amy +, writes (20 June 2010):
 Hi, i have the same problem! Its horrible i know. By any chance is he a gemini? Lol, every gemini i know is like that. Well all i do is leave him too it, don't push when he's in a 'mood' let him get on with it he will soon come back to you. He won't thank you for keep asking whats wrong. And its completly understandable that you are affected by these moods cause when you are in a relationship and like someone that much, you are bound to feel as though it is something youve done, and it is probs not. im sure he would tell you if it was something youve done. Just leave him too it, and he'll soon miss you asking whats wrong. x
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